Hospital visit dilemma

[mummyp3e3]

Hi all,

I'm a ftm to a 14 week old baby girl whose thriving. My dilemma is that my mum is in hospital in a ward that's been described as high risk of infection (I tried to go there today, read on to see why) my mum is dying and was admitted on Xmas eve and it was touch and go. I was on holiday with OH, we got the first flight back this morning and went straight to the hospital. My mum hasn't met my baby yet (personal reasons I can't go into on here) but obviously knowing she hasn't got long left I want to mend bridges and have her meet her first grand child :( I went to the ward she's in today and was basically refused entry and told if I go in its at my own risk. I explained to hospital staff I was here to see my mum to basically say goodbye and for her to meet her grandchild for first time, the nurse explained the unit she was in was high risk of infection and even if I was to go in alone it'd be a risk to my baby. I don't want to not see my mum and I want her to meet my baby girl but I obviously have to think of my baby's health first.. what would you do in this instance? The doctors have said the next 48-72 hours are critical and I want to be there, I'd never forgive myself if I wasn't. OH hasn't met my family due to reasons I can't explain in this post, so him coming with me isn't an option.

As hard as it is I wouldn't risk the health of my tiny baby. Sorry if that's not the answer you want op.

You have to put your daughter as a priority. The time to build bridges appears to have passed and you need to reconcile yourself with this.

I am sorry

Could you FaceTime? If I was your mum I wouldn’t want to risk my grandchild’s health despite the circumstances.

Cruel as this sounds if your Mum is dying then she is dying but your daughter is not. I would not risk my child’s health.

Can you not wrap dd in scrubs? Lots of hand gel?
I took ds in when dm had cancer.

I wouldn't risk my babies health. The staff will fully understand you want to be with your mum and would not say these things lightly. I think you just need to accept this unfortunately.

Can a viewing through a window be arranged somehow?

Couldn't you wear one of those biohazard suits? Don't they have those in hospitals for infection control?

What a difficult situation to be in, I'm so sorry.
I'm trying to think what we'd do in my hospital in this situation and I honestly don't know. The ward will not be allowed to move your mum anywhere else as she could transfer the infection to other wards. They will have an infection control lead nurse, I'd ask to speak to them and explain and see if they've got any clever ideas. They'd at least be able to discuss the risks of going on to the ward with you so you can make an informed decision.
There's obviously a lot of history, and even if you can't arrange to see her, you know that you were willing to and you tried.

The nurse in charge asked if my mum was mobile enough to be moved but she's completely immobile and bed bound, and yes I'd imagine she would transfer infection :( she got admitted as a bad cold turned into pneumonia and she has Parkinson's. I really don't know what to do, I don't want her to think I don't care about her, even if at least I went and showed her pictures of my baby, would they allow me to wear scrubs and a mask?.. I felt so terrible telling the nurse today to just tell her I was there as I knew she would have absolutely been overjoyed to meet her grand daughter today.

It is so tough for you. My mum went into hospital with a non critical illness which we then found out it was cancer and we expected her home to start chemo. Unfortunately she didn't make it out of the hospital. I didn't take my 6 month old in to see her as they had Nuro virus on the ward,2 previous patience had died through infection, so I thought they can spend everyday together when she comes home. That never happened and it breaks my heart. But you have to put your baby 1st.

I used to send in videos of him playing, having lunch, taking a bath and going off to sleep. Could you do something that and FaceTime eachother ???

I am so sorry for you, you must be going through hell and it's so difficult with a baby. Take care 💐💐

I’m sorry your going through this :(
I’m a nurse and my only suggestion would be to show your mum pictures and videos of baby and explain she cannot come in (if your mum is well enough to look at them and understand that is).
Leave baby at home with your OH, wash your hands as you leave and use the alcohol gel go home change your clothes and shower before handling your baby. High risk of infection could be anything and in my opinion it’s not worth the risk as awful as it may be x

I don’t know what to say. FaceTime is a good idea. It’s devastating for you. Could you write a letter and include photos of your child and have someone read it to her??