To baby or not to baby, that is the...

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Hi,

I'm late 30's, newly divorced, with a gorgeous SENs toddler I'm raising solo. Not easy but coping and DC is happy.

Here's the thing....I'd absolutely LOVE to have another baby and I'm so torn between whether it's a responsible / ok thing to do or not.

I never expected to be in this position and guess I need to either make peace with the fact that I've run out of time to have another baby, start dating again (unrealistic???), or look for a donar. I'm nearly 40 so it's crunch time (biologically speaking!)

I have a good job and my priority is to raise my child well. I'm just trying to work out if the idea of having another baby is so utterly irresponsible/ unlikely that I must let it go, however hard.

Can any of you relate? Any advice please? No pressure but hoping you know the answers as I definitely don't!!

If your child's problems are severe it may make caring for a baby very difficult. Needs a lot of thinking time.

IMO it's not a sensible decision.

Why is it that you'd like another child? How severe is your DCs needs? You may be coping now but how will you cope with a new born in the mix? Why bring a baby into the world knowing they won't have a present father? You may want a child but is it the best decision for the child you currently have and an additional one?

Yep. Fair challenge. It's probably not the responsible choice. I'm aware of this.

It's just very hard.

Thanks for being direct

I have 2 children. Currently age 1 and 3.5. No SEN and a very involved DH. It is hard work and I feel exhausted. I couldn’t do it if I were you and would focus on your current child! But I do understand the desire for your child to have a sibling