7 year old bed wetting

[Dollyandteddy]

Help! DD is wetting the bed almost nightly and had been since the summer. She’s fine, happy no emotional issues but is tired.

It did take her ages to get out of nappies, I think she was five. I was worried but it turned out that she was just being lazy and not getting out of bed because she knew she could wee in her nappy. I think this has become a habit.

I’ve tried to get her to get out of bed if she wakes in the night even if she thinks she doesn’t need the loo. Doesn’t work.

We’ve tried lifting her out every night but that’s not a long term solution.

We’ve tried talking and being supportive and now I’m just ready to stick her back in nappies. Is that too mean?! She just doesn’t seem bothered that she’s doing this.

I’m not convinced it’s a GP issue - she kept pooing herself because she was being lazy and not going when she knew she needed to. When I took her to the GP she was embarrassed and it magically resolved itself.

My DS went through a phase like this at a similar age. He used to wake me up to tell me that he'd wet himself. I'd then get out of bed, change his sheets and give him clean PJs. My sister (who didn't have kids at this stage) thought this was ridiculous so I stopped getting out of bed to help him during the middle of the night. I just told my DS that there were clean sheets and Pjs in the airing cupboard and if he didn't want to change them himself, he could wait until the morning. He soon realised that if he didn't want to lie in a wet bed or change his own sheets, then he'd have to get out of bed to use the toilet in the middle of the night! It probably helped that I also made him have a (rather cold) shower first thing in the morning to wash off the wee. He didn't like that!

I’d totally do that but she wakes, then can’t be bothered to get out of bed so goes back to sleep and then we’re herself without waking. She then sleeps through to the morning.

Might try getting her to change the sheets though! I’m beginning to lose my sympathy but have this lingering guilt so never follow through!!

I had thought about an alarm but she shares her room with her sister - are the alarms loud?!