Is a mothers love unconditional even in death?

[GrievingDaughter]

I was watching Mamma Mia! Here we go again and if you've seen that movie you'll know what I'm getting at here. I lost my mum when I was 12 before I got to know her really well as more than a mother and as a friend, what her dreams were and wishes were for the future. I feel like I've done a lot since her passing to make her hate me and it makes me wonder if she could still love me if there is a heaven or whatever happens in the afterlife and she's watching over me.

A woman will always love her child no matter what. (I should know, the anount of shit I've had to put up with from dc1!)

I could say almost the same. I was older when I lost my parents (dad at 18, mum at 38), but I’m almost 50 now and I do wonder if they watch down on me and see all the bad choices I have made, but then again I also wish and hope that they can see how I’ve turned my life around over the last five years. I’m sure sue would still love you, and would probably just wish the best for you.

My children are adults now, and I will always love them beyond reason or sense. Doesn’t mean we don’t have occasional arguments, I told you so moments or eye rolling from all of us at some point.
But the love is always there. I’m sure your mother loves you.

I think about this a lot. There's nothing more powerful, I think a mothers love is eternal x

I think when you are a kid you can operate under the illusion that your parents are infallible. As you get older that charade fades away and leaves a much more complicated and compromised human who you continue to love just as much.

I guess what I am saying is that, not only would she love you just as much, she would understand what it's like to fuck up, fail, make mistakes, cobble it all back together again and she would love your complicated and compromised you just as much as when you were perfect and innocent in her arms.

Unless you have murdered your siblings or been complicit in war crimes, I’m not sure what you could possibly have done to make your DM hate you. Even murderers’ parents usually still love them, so I’m sure fucking up your A-levels or cheating on your partner or whatever you’ve done wouldn’t make her disown you!

If you think about how infrequently parents go NC with their own children, and what kinds of behaviour usually lead to that, you’ll see it’s pretty unlikely your mum would hate you. Even when parents do go NC with their children they often do still love them, but have to go NC for emotional self-protection.

I'd love my children whatever they did, although I may not like them at the time. I do think mother love is forever though and I'd like to think my dear departed mum would approve of my life choices.

No matter what you have done she would love you. Also lost my mum young.

OP, I'm assuming that you don't have children of your own yet, or you simply wouldn't need to ask.

Your Mum loved you more than you can possibly imagine.

There's nothing that you could have done which would have stopped that love. Expanding on the pp, I'm not convinced even war crimes would do it. Deliberately murdering your sibling might - but I imagine you haven't done that.

She might feel sad... desperately worried for you... and hope beyond hope that you will make better choices soon. But all that comes from love.

Your Mum isn't here now, so you need to give yourself the love and compassion she would have given you.