Social Services involvement

[mummyp3e3]

Hi,

I am a ftm to a nearly 14 week old girl. I've been in an relationship with my partner for nearly 3 years and it's progressively got more abusive as time as gone on. He's controlling, and emotionally and mentally abusive, he gaslights me and also stonewalls when we argue knowing it drives me mad. During my pregnancy we had a number of arguments where the neighbours called the police, who in turn involved my midwife and I received a call from social services. Tonight he's raised his voice to me and slammed doors all in front of our baby girl :( our baby is so beautiful and I just love her so so much but she's been relentlessly crying today and we don't know why, I have the patience to deal with it and give her love and comfort because she's just an innocent little baby who needs that from her parents but he just gets angry and cannot deal with the crying. I'm scared the neighbours have called the police again, because I'm sure that means social services will be involved. Will they take my baby away if the police come? I'm not worried if they come and take him away! But I just don't want anyone to touch my baby as she needs me and when it's just us she's happy and has her routine in the day. Can anyone advise on social services involvement in abusive relationships where babies are involved? I'm biding my time at the moment and saving up as much as I can to break free.

Oh mummy I've been there scared of what he might do. I saw his temper and him shouting in my face. Luckily I didn't stay for it to get physical but the mental state of me wasn't great. I left when DS was 6 months old and it's the best thing I did. I went into a refuge and then got rehoused from there. My first step was calling women's aid and told them all the little things he did. They confirmed it was indeed abuse. That then started me in my decision to leave. Message me if you need to, I know it's tough.

You really must get in contact with women's aid as a priority and they will be able to give you the right advice about how to keep yourself safer if you want to stay in relationship or help you leave him-if this is what you want. In emergency you MUST call 999 to keep you both safe.

For your daughters sake please leave the relationship asap, witnessing or hearing domestic abuse is a form of emotional abuse which WILL have negative outcomes for her later in life-such as depression and anxiety when she's older. Raising her single handedly will be tough at times but not as tough as knowing you could have helped to keep your child safe physically and emotionally and chose not to.

Leave now. It's not safe for you or your baby. Especially your baby.

If she's been crying out of the ordinary and if she's not in need of anything, I'd get her checked by a Dr asap.

Where have you got to go?

Parents / Friends?
Is the house rented or brought -in your name or both?

Phone the police tell them he has pushed you and you are terrified.

If he kills you and then blames in on you -and 'your abuse' -he could well get custody and a non custodial sen. then what? your daughter raised by him.