I am 26, never had anything to do with my dad. He met a few times when I was tiny but nothing since then. He only lived 14 miles from where I grew up, now I live even closer to where he lives (assume he still lives there). Sometimes I try and kid myself and tell myself I don’t care, but I do. I feel at more at Christmas. I mean he’s not been around 26 Christmasses.
I have two D.C. myself and my OH is a doting dad as is my ex (father to DS) and I really fail to understand how anyone can have little contact with their children.
My biological dad has 5 possible 6 other children. He lives with 3 if them and is apparently a doting dad to them so why not me?
My mums never really spoken much about it. My mum and him were engaged and I know he had a string of one night stands with another woman and got her pregnant. Awkward 🤷♀️ My mum was young (19) and heartbroken which I understand. She has always implied that he never bothered but something my dear Granny said a few years ago made me think.. she said he desperately wanted to see me but my mum and their family put a stop to it. I know my mum etc can have a nasty streak. She told me to stop DS seeing his dad when we spilt when there was absolutely no reason to do so. My uncle has always been a bit of a thug and apparently he threatened him.
But then if a dad really wanted to see his child, wouldn’t they fight for access?
I have this whole family I’ve never met and Deep down I do want to meet them but I’m scared of my mothers reaction. But then nearly 27 years has passed surely my mother is over it by now?