Nursery wants to have Health Visitor Advice

[denise0105]

Hello everyone

My son is 30 months old and has been going toddler room in the nursery since March/2017. He started with 2.5 days and in Sept/2018 turned to full time. He is bilingual and his English is not in the same level with his peers. He started to use 2 word expressions but not making sentences. Yet he understands what he is told to.

Over the time there were times when he bite or scratched a peer. And I was given incident reports about what happened what was the trigger. Sometimes in these reports there were no obvious triggers. When this happened nursery and us aggreed to tell him "be gentle" and try to distract him. And happily Since November we did not have any reports which made us quite happy and at home he was much much more less aggressive towards us. - No scratch on my arms -

Last week I was asked by a nursery manager if they can contact to HV to support him better. According to them reason is that sometimes he is being pushy towards others and there are new starters in the room which are younger thanrest of the room. And they think that their approach is not really working and they would like to get an advice from HV to support him better. This could be speach and language therapy or just some verbal advice on the phone..

I was quite suprised because I thought the worst times were left behind. Manager told me that he is still using the physically communication - but he is doing less - when he gets upset but staff is trying to keep him away from these sort of situations. Thats why im not signing any reports.

Quick background :

We had 2 year check with health visitor in november and it was absolutely fine. And nursery did their check just after HV check and there wasn't anything that raised a concern. Except that his key person stated that "sometimes he does not have the awareness of personal space of his peers and some peers might not like this . And he is physically very active."

Has anyone experienced this before ? Should I be worried about this . I think this is all got to do with his speaking and which will get better over the time. And he will start to ps1 next month with some of his peers.

Sorry for the long message. I would appreciate if you can share your experiences.

Thanks

This sounds very similar to my third child, including the personal space.

Get his eyes checked thoroughly. We took Ds3 several times, from age 3 onwards but it was only when he was nearly 6 that his vision was finally diagnosed, I didn’t realise they weren’t testing everything, only what they thought he would tolerate. His prescription is quite extreme and we missed the opportunity to help him develop 3D vision. (Ds3 was also diagnosed with autism aged nearly 9 - but don’t worry about that just now.)

Thanks autumnboys . This I did not think about.
I`ll do it asap