Family dog is too excited around my LO

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I thought that once I'd had my baby I would have a great opportunity to spend more time and connect more with my mum especially as she seemed so excited at having her first grandchild.
She was amazing during the first 6 weeks and came round pretty much every day to help me out as I was struggling with a newborn and my boyfriend is currently working overseas.
But her dog is not good around my baby and has already lunged at her.
It is so difficult. Even when she is in a pram in the house the dog is still too over excited and tries to jump up. I am so worried something will happen and it is exhausting holding her up really high when the do is constantly jumping up towards her.
I feel like visiting, which was atleast a weekly occaurance, is stressful and takes me days to get over. She says the dog is getting used to her- but in my mind he just sees him as a toy he wan6t to play with.
I feel so stressed about protecting my baby but know that they feel I am overreacting even though they agree they wouldn't even sit down holding my little girl around him.
Should I tell my mum how I feel? I don't want to make things worse but I don't know how to move forward and have my LO growing up with family around her.

Lunged aggressively or just trying to get closer? Have you actually let the ddog smell your baby? We had 3 ddogs when ds was born and sat holding him with his socks off!! Ddogs had a good smell - and a lick, got bored and went off about their business!! Ds is 4, his feet didn't fall off - and they have an amazing relationship!!.
Don't let a ddog come between you and your dm if you can help it. We have 4 ddogs now and the biggest is put out when dgs comes due to sheer size, the other 3 love him and he loves +respects them. Worth investing some time to try and make it into a relationship in the making imo.

Good god that's awful!

You know statistically, babies are most likely to be bitten by their grandparents dog. They're around them more, the dogs aren't around them enough to get used to them, the GPs minimise the dogs aggressive behaviour.

Your responsibility is to your baby. If they were injured, police would question why you as the parent let the dog near the baby.

Can't she put the dog in another room while you visit? Or crate him if they want him in the same room? I worry about this with my mums dog if I have a LO as he is completely mental and will try and sit on your shoulder like a parrot (he's an abnormally large springer spaniel!!). I've already told her he'd have to stay out of the way until I could trust him.

Lunged probably out of excitement but with way too much energy.

Dog on a lead or in a crate/playpen/shut out when the baby is around.
And yes I have a dog.

I was bitten by my grandmother's small dog when I was about 18 months old, I have a long jagged scar on my cheek still. Every other week on the news you hear of a small child or baby getting killed by their family dog.

The benefit/risk ratio is not there. Benefit - your mother doesn't have to be bothered doing anything with the dog. Risk - the dog bites baby, leaving her disfigured or dead. Tell your mother she needs to lock the dog outside when you visit. Your baby is way more important than some dumb dog.

I was worried about my dog would be around baby niece, not worried about biting and aggression but her being excited and the first few times I put my dog in a different room and once dog had settled down then let her in the room, if she'd jumped up while I was holding the baby I'd be putting her in a different room while baby was here or I'd visit baby at their house and leave dog here.

Niece loves my dog and dog loves her, but even so when they first come in she's excited and her tail is like a bloody whip and right at nieces face height so she still goes into kitchen where my sister will greet her and I'll look after baby until dog calms down. Niece has just started walking and does the cutest baby giggle when the dog follows her.

It's finding a balance imo.

Fil has recently rehomed the dog they've had for six years, they provide free childcare for his wife's dd and she didn't like dog going anywhere near her child, dog was actually really really well behaved and would have a sniff then go lie down but his step daughter couldn't relax and fils wife would have the dog locked in a crate most of the day. Stepdaughter said it's not possible to provide proper care for her baby if they have a dog taking attention.

Sorry to read this. I have dogs and I would never allow them to jump up at people, let alone a baby. We keep them behind a stairgate in the kitchen when we have visting children. Mostly as I can't predict the children rather than the dogs. I would say dog needs to get used to the baby (play videos of baby crying, bring baby bits for the dog to smell, give the dog rewards for calm behaviour around baby...) but I would insist in the meantime the dog is put away with toys and get a professional dog trainer in to help. It's not worth the risk. The dog needs to get under control which your mum need a to sort.

I've had a similar issue with family members. I spoke to my health visitor about it and she advised that the dog should be crated or in another room and she has dogs herself. She advised that the crate need a to be used even when baby isn't there so the dog doesn't negatively associate it as a punishment with baby. The crate will also act as dogs safe place when they want to get away too.
Your health visitor will see it as a risk and will follow up if there has been any incidents of lunging or nipping.

You'll need to speak to your mum asap especially with the festive period next week. I understand it'll be awkward and hard.

All dogs should be closely supervised and should never jump up. There are also helpful guides online via dog charities that offer advice.

Ill get flamed but you can never trust a dog with a baby or toddler and your lilltle one safety needs trump your mums feelings in regard to her dog. Approach the subject kindly and armed with advice from your health visitor and do as much research aa you can.

Your mum may take to it or not but your priority is rightfully to your child. Its very worrying that you've put your baby in a safe place and the dog is trying forget to your child. its not for you to try and hide your child away or the dog but to safely restrict the dog.

Ps

A dog should never lick a baby as someone has suggested. It has been proven through studies that dogs mouths aren't cleaner than a human's which has been popular belief.

The dog needs to be in another room or similar when you visit as pps have said. I have a 4 month old and my parents have 2 dogs. When we visit the dogs go outside in nice weather or are shut in the kitchen. We've started doing managed introductions with the dogs sniffing baby but with my dad holding their collars firmly. They're 2 of the sweetest dogs you could ever meet and there is no suggestion they would ever be aggressive but it's just not worth the risk.

I don't understand why your mum allows this to happen, frankly. I love dogs, by the way. I have cats and if someone comes to visit me who doesn't like cats I'll shut them in another room. But this isn't a matter of a mere dislike, there is potential danger to the baby here.

Why the hell is your mum letting the dog jump up at anyone, let alone someone holding a tiny baby? Does she have any control over it at all?

Thanks all.
Itssosunnyout I did speak to her before Christmas. To make sure we didn't all fall out or argue over Xmas we just suggested that they came over to us for part of the day. I'm glad I did it really. It made me feel like I was doing a good job at being a mum and looking out for my LO.
I think it's thrown up loads of emotional stuff I just wasn't expecting. Now I'm a mum it definitely makes me feel that the relationship between me and my parents has changed and that unfortunately how we spend time together will also have to change.
They just see that putting the dogs in their crates is a punishment and distresses them. So I just see it as well I have to look after my LO and that comes first so I will just have to do things to best look after her.