HELP!!!!! Been potty training forever!!

[Kamryn]

Started to train DD aged 2 years 3 Months after she was consistantly taking off her nappy and asking for potty. Good progress to start with and by time she had 2 1/2 year check with HV she was practically dry with only an odd spot in her knicks occasionally.

Then....

.... she totally gave up, constant floods of accidents and so we've gone on for months.

Have tried sticker charts, collecting so many to get a magazine or similar, small treats for sucesses, choosing her own knickers, potty, toilet with special Winnie Pooh seat, basically you name it we've tried it.

Now at a stage where its hit and miss sometimes dry ish but never a dry day completely (we have had dry days in past), other days floods.

Really seems like she can't be bothered and seems to wet her knickers enough to have them changed but not soak trousers.

Feel we've gone past the stage of putting back in nappies but also have been at this for over 6 months now and are at wits end.

Any advice gratefully received, DD now 2 years 9 months.

My DS 2y 5m has regressed twice since potty training the first time was because he got ill just after we did potty training, second time I think was because we do mother & toddler group at his school (starts in sept) and he was going on his own for a short period, just to get him used to it. We had seven accidents in one afternoon and I lost the plot, threw his wet pants at him and they hit him in the face (I felt vile). But the more I asked him about the loo the more hw had accidents. Has she started school or anything like that? Or it could be a control thing - not like punishment to you but she is having a no stage. The other thing it mabe is that DS thought he could hold on to his pee all day as he went through a period of being dry all night. I don't think he understood that he has to go sometimes! The best advice I have had is don't constantly ask it drives them nuts but just take them to the loo when you go. Also DS does soetimes do a little pee in his pants and then realises that he should be going to the loo and will then ask, i think its the way they learn. After you have a few days dry or dryish then ask her if she needs the loo olny if you need to go too. I would abandon the treats etc and if she has an accident just ask her if dry clothes would be nicer than wet ones. I agree you shouldn't go back into napies its too late. I hope this ramble is of some help one mother told me that potty training for the first 6 or 7 months is almost more trouble than its worth! Good Luck

I started DD at about the same age, she was asking, taking her nappy off, giving me all the right signs, but as soon as I made a conscious effort, she lost the will to do it.

Must admit, I packed it in for a few months. When I picked it up again, about a month ago now 2.7 she got it straight away.

I'm reluctant to say stop for now, because you've been at it for so long, so my advice isn't great. But stopping for now is an option, if you feel you can.

I did the same, my dd1 was going great guns until she got terrible constipation. I just let it go for a while as we then had a new baby in the house and when we started again she got right into it no probs. I just relaxed about it and let nature take it's course.

She has been at nursery since 11 months old, just for 2 days a week but think that this may have hindered the whole process and made it take so long as they (after observation) are not quick to react which is to be expected I guess as I only have one to 'quickly' get to the toilet they have 12+!!

I think its too late to go back to nappies but will try the whole non reaction and no nagging (am a bit of a culprit of that!!!!) again and see how it goes. Its just soooooo frustrating as I know she can do it or we wouldn't have had dry days in the past. Really think she is being lazy, not being mean to her but she can't be bothered to stop playing and go until the very last minute when inevitably its too late.

She managed to take her own nappy off this morning and do a big poo and wee sucessfully on the potty with no mess....

....Great, thrilling, you're such a big girl... shame it was at 5.30am!!!!

well its 5.30 but its a start. I think every time they get it right they are more likely to get it right again, well I hope, DS still has problems with peeing but I am hoping by the time he starts school in september then it will sort itself out. Good luck and let us know how it goes.