Ex has moved on and not wanting to see baby a lot

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Hiya , it's just to see if anyone is in the same boat or has been as I don't know how to act or be.

My BD has moved on and now seeing another girl and has been for a few weeks but they also work together.

Anyways come January time he's going off his 4 on 4 off and that's sully when he takes Marcus his 4 days off and I work and vice verser but now he's going to have weekends off he says he's only taking baby one of they days and his mum will take him one day throughout the week if she can. "As he's still got a life to live"
I really don't want him to put her first because our son but I feel it's slowly going that way. I don't want to argue with him and I know he's working but he should at least take him every weekend as I don't even know we're my work is meant to come in now.

It's very hard and confusing.

Don't know how to react or what to do

What a horrible man. Unfortunately you can’t force him to take the baby more than he is willing to, although would bringing him to court for more maintenance be more of an incentive to help out more? If he won’t help with time he should be paying more money. He may well have a life to live too but he also created a life and must take responsibility for him.

Accept his choice. Concentrate on your relationship with dc. Don't waste mind space on your ex. Your dc will flourish with 1 fab parent - better than + a flakey one.
And given his level of input do not feel obliged to run any parenting decisions by him.
If won't be your dc's loss if you don't let it.

All a child needs/wants is a happy stable home with a happy confident parent and good predictable routines. A "father" coming in and out of a child's life has a much more negative impact on a person than an absent father. If he is going to come and go whenever he pleases you will have to step up to the plate with two options for him - either be a proper parent with a routine he does not deviate from or sling his hook.

Your ex mother in law has no legal right to see your child. If you were relying on her for babysitting while you work etc., then if it suits you to allow her to see your child routinely, then so bet it. On the other hand if your ex is just using his mother to palm his kid off on her so he can deny you of time with your child and simultaneously play his shiny new happy family game, then I would pull the plug on this arrangement immediately.

Take it from me. Been there. Done that. I had to deal with a so called parent who could not be bothered to parent or pay for their child in any way. Their parent status was just an excuse to try to continue their abuse of me. If this guy is treating you and your kid like something on the bottom of his shoe, then what goes around is very likely going to come back around for him.

Good riddance to bad rubbish.