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Baby keeps getting sick at nursery

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Kayzarimya1 · 15/12/2018 13:06

I decided to get back into work as the job I had when I got pregnant I no
Longer have and I need extra money coming in. Plus I needed some time away from the baby as I was going through really bad post natal depression. I’ve been working for three months now and my mental
Health is much better and I’m feeling more positive about life and getting more money so all good. Since my baby 15 month year old has start d nursery she is always getting sick. She has high temperature, coughing . It’s like whenever I leave her there it just makes her worse. I’ve been giving her extra vitamins and wrapping her up warm but it does not seem to help. I m starting to feel really guilty to start working even if it is part time. I feel like throwing in the towel and giving up the job. What can I do to prevent her from getting sick? Any advice? Any remedies? I’m starting to thfeel not the nursery they are not looking after her properly it’s £700 a month to send my daughter into nursery and I feel they do not care for her enough because she is always ill. In fact she has had a cold on and off for 3 months. I’ve taken her to the dr and they have given her an asthma pump for the wheezing and reckoned that I just keep keep giving her calpol and vitamins but something is not right. Perhaps she has a chest infection. I’ve suggested to dr and he says she has not. Wondering if anyone else is going through the same thing.

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imamearcat · 15/12/2018 13:19

It's just how it is when they start nursery in afraid. This time of year it's just a germ fest!! In my experience it tends to ease off into the new year. They just need to build up their immune system but it is unbelievable how often then get sick!

Take her back to the doc of if you are worried.

Goldmandra · 15/12/2018 13:24

There is pool of viruses in the population that we all need to encounter and build immunity to at some point. Our exposure to them peaks at times like starting nursery, starting school, starting uni, etc. Every virus your DC gets now, they will be immune to next time it comes around (except colds which may have mutated).

It will get better with time and you might as well get some viruses out of the way now as any other time.

Lwmommy · 15/12/2018 13:27

Also watch out for 'wrapping her up warm' we did the same when DD started then realised that it's about 25 degrees inside the nursery and the red cheeks and overly hot they were calling about was because she was wearing too much.

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Lazypuppy · 15/12/2018 14:16

1st year at nursery is always the worst. My daughter has had cold after cold after cold. Its just what happens.

Lazypuppy · 15/12/2018 14:18

Just re'read your post, just because she has colds etc doesn't mean the nursery aren't looking after her. That's a horrible thing to say, i hope you haven't said it to them.

She'll get colds when she is home with you, everybody gets sick. Every time you get sick, she'll probably get it as well.

Teatimeted · 15/12/2018 14:23

It took six weeks for my DS to do a full week at nursery when he started as he just picked up every virus going. That's just what happens. He's been much more resilient this year.

Aozora13 · 15/12/2018 14:23

Just another one here saying we went through the same the first few months my DD was at nursery. We had chicken pox, an ear infection, tummy bug and endless colds. She built up her immune system really quickly though and is rarely sick enough to need time off now (she’s 2.5).

But do speak to the GP if you’re worried. It does get easier!

Teatimeted · 15/12/2018 14:23

And how do you imagine nursery are going to stop her getting ill??

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Kayzarimya1 · 15/12/2018 14:43

Well if you go into the garden without jacket... you will get a cold. Not washing hands, etc no I haven’t said anything to the nursery... I more wrote this thread to find out if anyone is going through the same thing as me and if there is any herbal remedy that anyone could recommend to help build immune system.

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SPR1107 · 15/12/2018 14:47

We had the same with our DS. He started October last year, and it was January before he done a full month. But now, his immune system is much better. It's something they all go through when they first start. It's tough, but ride it out, it'll get better and her immune system will be tougher for it

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Kayzarimya1 · 15/12/2018 14:48

I have an older daughter who started nursery at 2 so a bit older.
She never went through any of this. This is new to me. So @tesmented there’s no need to be negative towards my thread. As a mother all things go through the head to why she is getting ill. Looks like from responses this a normal thing which has made me feel a bit more relaxed about the situation. Thank you all for the comments.

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Olivebrach · 15/12/2018 14:53

I give my son elderberry syrup. Dont know if it helps but he didnt get any colds while having it then when i stopped (ran out) he got sick. Not sure if its a coincidence but worth a try. Cant make his immunity any worse.

JassyRadlett · 15/12/2018 14:58

Well if you go into the garden without jacket... you will get a cold.

Not how it works. If you get too cold you may be more susceptible to some viruses, but it won’t cause a cold.^

The first winter at nursery is always grim, particularly when they’re younger as there are more bugs they won’t have ‘met’ yet. The upside is that once you get through it, they’re generally much more robust.

FlyingCat · 15/12/2018 15:03

both encountering other kids at nursery, and also picking up germs from you having gone out to work, will make your child sick.

You cannot catch a cold from simply being cold (hypothermia yes but since your child has not been hospitalised i suspect its not that.) - colds are viruses, if you encounter the virus you may catch it, if you don’t you won’t.

Be of good cheer, your child will have an amazing level of resilience by the time they start school (my daughter ws similar in her forst year at nursery).

All you can do is wash hands regularly (dc and yours) and nurse them through the sicknesses.

Ceecee18 · 15/12/2018 15:04

OP it's completely normal. DD started at 13 months and is nearly 17 months now. We are starting to get the odd few days without a cough or cold before it starts back up again. Your older DD probably had a slightly stronger immune system when she started at 2.

The nursery aren't to blame. I'm sure they are washing their hands and keeping the children warm. Think of how much toddlers put their hands or toys in their mouths, then the next kid will come along and play with the toy and do the same and the bug passes on. But it's good for her, it'll help build a strong immune system. The GP told me that they need to get 10 colds a years for the first few years to help strengthen the immune system, then gradually the frequency tapers off.

I have heard that sumbucol (you'll need the kids one) is good for immune systems but i've not tried it.

But just as a side note, you don't get unwell by being outside without a coat on. It's viruses and bacteria that cause you to become unwell.

SoyDora · 15/12/2018 15:07

You don’t get colds from being cold. You may be very slightly more susceptible to catching a virus, but that’s it.
You can’t blame the nursery. Your child is in very close proximity to lots of other children. Children pick up viruses due to an immature immune system.

DD1 picks up everything going. DD2 is 3.5 and the worst she gets is a sniffle.

GandalfsRing · 15/12/2018 15:17

The best thing for your child’s immune system is actually being exposed to these germs. She’ll build up a resistance to them for the future.
It’s happened to all of us with dc at nursery - it’s just how it is. You have all these children passing germs back and forth but it’s better in the long run.
Just hope you have an understanding employer

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Kayzarimya1 · 15/12/2018 16:41

Thank you all so much.

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Goldmandra · 16/12/2018 19:15

if there is any herbal remedy that anyone could recommend to help build immune system

Her immune system is doing just fine as she's coming across new viruses, getting symptoms and recovering as her body fights them off. Each virus will trigger her immune response more quickly the next time she encounters it because her body will recognise it and she won't develop symptoms.

There isn't any 'remedy' you can give children to make an already healthy immune system fight off viruses more quickly or be immune to them the first time they encounter them (unless you count immunisations of course).

Hand-washing isn't going to make a great deal of difference in a nursery unless they children washed their hands every time they touched their faces which clearly isn't going to happen.

Things will get better once she's encountered a reasonable number of viruses and is immune to them so she gets symptoms from fewer.

Verryberrycherry · 17/12/2018 00:15

All normal and the same for my ds for the first year of nursery. Maybe a probiotic might help but really colds are unavoidable.

User24689 · 17/12/2018 06:20

God I remember this with my DD, it was so stressful. I had to call in to work most weeks because of something or other. I only worked 3 days and I think it took me about 6 months to actually get through a full week! Thankfully I had a really understanding workplace! She's 3 now and started preschool. Loads of her friends have been off constantly this winter but she's had nothing - maybe because she got so many bugs as a baby! It honestly does get better.

Cutesbabasmummy · 17/12/2018 09:52

OP I have sympathy but we've all been there. My DS started nursery at 9 months and he got everything going. It gets better.

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