Mummy rant!

[Durnie]

Just checking to make sure I'm not over reacting. So basically the mother in law picked up my 2 and half year old from nursery today to take him to the dentist. We are into our 2nd week of toilet training him, which the mother in law knows. She had asked me if she could put him in pull ups while she had him, I said no (I supplied extra clothes incase of any accidents). I then get home no more then 3 hours later to find that he had a pull up on and the excuse my husband told me as I was very annoyed at the mother in law was that she was thinking ahead and toilets aren't that accessible. Even tho there is public toilets in the town and a toilet at the dentist practice. I'm so pissed at her as she had asked me before hand and still went against my wishes.

To be honest it isn’t up to her to toilet train your child

I'd say at 2 and a half I'd be putting my two in a pull up to negotiate a trip to the dentist. Why put her and the child in a stressful situation?

I presume she was doing you both a favour. You sound ungrateful.

I understand your frustration however I also understand why she would put a pull up on him. It's very and I mean VERYYYY annoying when someone does other wise than what you say about your child. Same thing happens to me all the time. Mother in law asks if my son who's one can have chocolate bar, I say no because I'm making his dinner and it's almost bed time, well he walks in with chocolate smeared all over his mouth. I go MAD. It infuriates me. So I get it. And to be honest she should've respected your wishes. However being that it's not her child, she must've felt like she didn't want to put herself in a situation where she would've had to clean up a mess in public.. in case he would've had an accident on the way to the toilet or a seat. It's very frustrating I know, that's why I rarely ask for help cause I realised if I want something done my way, I just gotta do it myself.

Presumably your mil did you a favour taking your child to the dentist? Taking a toddler to the dentist is not the easiest of tasks!

I know how annoying it is when your wishes are disregarded, but I think a trip like that with a 2.5 year old would be stressful enough, without adding in rushing to public toilets and then dealing with a potential accident. I’d use a pull up myself in that situation and absolutely wouldn’t put that additional stress on my mum or mil doing me a favour

I agree with the above. You want it doing your way? You do it.

Lordy, you dont want much do you?

Yes, you are overreacting.

I get that the MIL was doing you a favour but my two year old would be very angry if someone put her in a nappy and she had to wee in durring the day. What did your son think?

Maybe it would have been better if through the potty training faze, you took your child to the dentist to keep the consistency

You MIL clearly wasn't comfortable doing it, so i don't think she should be out in that situation really, I know sometimes these situations are unavoidable, so you should have really just accepted this once the pull up was needed