Asking Sister and BIL to be guardians

[CJ1990]

Me and my husband are going to ask my sister and her husband to be legal guardians to our daughter if we both popped our cloggs. I’m trying to find a nice way of doing this (I already know she’ll say yes). Don’t want to just say “will you do it” and that be that if you know what I mean...just wondering if anyone would have any ideas? Maybe a gift or something? My sister is very sentimental so I know she’d love it!

I think it would be odd to give a gift.
You have a conversation (face to face) and say that you had been thinking about writing your wills, and were wondering if they would be comfortable with you naming them as legal guardians for your dc, as you {insert suitable compliments along lines of they would be great parents or you know they would do a superb job} etc emphasising that it is obviously a 'should the worst ever happen' scenario and statistically unlikely to ever be needed.

I have just had the same conversation with my brother and SIL. I never really thought of him as he doesn't want his own kids so I thought he wouldn't want to, but he has previously made the comment of being the ones who would "get him". So I thought I would check if he was serious, as SIL would love to do it, but they were more than happy to.

But I just had a face to face, serious chat. I think A present would make it wierd, but you know your sister. I suppose

You need to do it as a proper conversation and then give them time to consider it. It’s not a time for making a gift!