2.5 year old becoming more and more mean towards me (mum)

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Hello,
I’m hoping for a bit of advice, my 2.5 year old daughter is awful towards me, won’t let me get her up in the morning, won’t let me put her to bed, sometimes won’t let me in the same room as her , will scream and hit me and screams for her daddy, if I sit on the sofa next to her, she will get up cry and run towards daddy. When it’s just her and I at home together she is fine and we play and everything is ok but the moment daddy comes home or at weekends then it all changes and it honestly is like she hates me and I’ve done something wrong, which I can assure you I haven’t.
It all started when I went back to work when she was 14 months old, and has got progressively worse, I’m now due my second baby in 4 weeks and I’m feeling so down about the situation now, I feel lonely in my own home as it’s a daughter and daddy then me on my own, it’s so very upsetting and I have run out of ideas how to make this better. Please help xx

It’s not personal, sometimes it’s as if they can sense the change before the baby arrives.

I’d read her lots of books about a new baby coming, your library shoukd have a few and give her plenty of cuddles and attention when DH isn’t around.

Try to change the way you think about things too. It’s really good that she has such a secure relationship with DH. If he’s around at the weekends, get him to take her out lots. Things like swimming, the park, the library are all good and if he’s aroubd at bedtime get him to do the bedtime routine.

You’ll need some time to prepare for the new baby (or maybe just sleep) and once baby arrives, you’ll be thankful that she’s happy to be with DH and you get time to focus on DC2