When did you move from a co sleeper?

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My dd is 7 months and we have a next to me Co sleeper. She's breastfed and wakes several times a night to eat. It's easy as I can just roll over and feed then go back to sleep but the constant waking is starting to weigh on me.
She is usually asleep at half 6/7 and will sleep until 11 when we go to bed,she usually wakes once or twice but goes back to sleep after a bit of a shout and a wriggle.
After we go to bed she wakes multiple times a night usually hourly to two hourly. I'm being constantly told that it's my fault she's waking that sleeping next to her is stopping her from sleeping and we'd all be happier if she was away from us or in her own cot.
She wriggles over to be as close to us as possible and holds onto my pajamas while she sleeps and apart from the practicality of feeding through the night wakings I just don't feel ready to move her yet but I'm not sure if I'm being selfish and stopping her from getting a good night's sleep because of my own feelings?

Who on Earth is telling that rot OP?

What?
It's everyone, my mum, mother in law, friends. Saying I'm probably waking her up having her next to me and we'd all get better sleep if she moved away. Can't tell if I should have moved her away from me already or not.

The research simply does not back that up. Have a read of these studies on normal infant sleep. According to one study quoted, half of all 12 month olds require parental intervention to enable them to get back to sleep. Also, waking in the night is what babies are programmed to do, it’s a healthy survival mechanism

I think though that she may have a bit of reverse cycling going on. Have a read of these tips on Kellymom and this article from askdrsears on sleep is very good too

Once she’s 12 months, you can night wean or partial night wean. The Dr Jack Goodman night Weaning technique is a good one.

If you are after a book, try the No Cry Sleep Solution.

Sorry, pressed post too soon

Sweet Sleep is another good book.

As for the right time to move her into her own room, there isn’t a set time when you’ve should. The guidelines are that they sleep in the same room as you for the first 6 months, but don’t give a age where there have to move.

It’s a very personal choice. Hopefully, someone of the tips I’ve posted will tweak your nights enough for you to all be happy with them again, wherever you choose to put your baby

If you and your baby are happy with your situation then trust in yourself and don’t listen to anyone else.

You are providing your baby with comfort and support at a really busy time in their development.

My baby is 7months old too, I moved him out his co sleeping crib early as he is so long and was too big for it. But his cot is next to my bed as I there is no way I’m getting out of my bed all night long! He transfers easy enough from my chest to his cot without waking.

You are doing an amazing job and don’t let anyone put any doubt into you. You know what’s right for you and your baby. They will sleep longer and independently when the time is right!

Oh god @JiltedJohnsJulie reverse cycling! I'd never even heard of it. Just googled and that's totally what she's doing! She only gets fed twice during the day and then again before bed time, I stopped feeding her more because she just didn't seem to want any more than that I just thought she was dropping feeds. But she is super nosy and distractable so it's probably just that.
Looking into how to fix it and I'll look into the books :)

That's exactly what we were planning on doing soon @bluemoon33 thanks nice to know I'm not being ridiculous keeping her with me.

Keep her there until you feel it is the right time. IME you'll know.

Oh and when it comes to sleep, there is no such word as "should". There is very little reputable research and most of what people say is 100% opinion.

Telll them is none of those business.
I had to start ignoring or changing subject about also with people as mum and mils generation seem dead set against cosleeping.
I cosleept till DD was almost two.
And now coskeeping with DS 12m.
It’s up to you when you move her. And that will be exhausting for a while as she gets used to the new set up.
But don’t be pushed by other people. You know your baby and what works for your family.

DD is 4 months (just shy of) and I have no intention of kicking her out of our room at 6 months. It just feels too soon for us. Also we sleep up in the loft conversion and she would be downstairs by herself. She sleeps in a cot by our bed but I hear her shuffling around at night and often she'll just tilt her head up to see me and then go back to sleep. Maybe your baby is just a frequent waker and would want to feed just as much in her own room.

DD does sleep in her nursery but only for day naps if were at home.

The advice did use to be very different and my MIL was gunning for DD to go into the nursery at 4 weeks because DH mostly ends up in the spare room when she chats away at night and wakes him up. However, you know your baby best as I know mine and I wasn't about to bow to peer pressure (not to mention ignore sids guidelines). The other people in your life may feel like they know your baby and be invested in them but they are not the mother here and they don't have the connection that you do. Trust that you'll know when the time is right for both of you.

My baby slept on my bed til 12 weeks and then cot since then. Wasn't too much trouble to get out of bed several times and put him back in his cot. Though often took a while to go back to sleep.

My 2 year old is still in my room, in her own bed but usually climbs in with me at some point, I'm too lazy to go into another room if she wakes up!
Don't take any notice of what other people say, do what's right for you and get as much sleep as possible I say!

Im in the same boat as you OP. DS is nearly 8 months. I love having him next to me. Dreading even thinking about him being in a different room. People offer their opinion about things like this without being asked. I just ignore them and smile (whilst thinking piss off )