Tips to get 2 year old to sleep in own bed

[stridesy]

My daughter just turned 2 has always been very clingy. Had an awful year (2 house moves and 9 year old son out of school) and she's just stayed in our bed. I want to start putting her in her room (she has acorn but rails are off). Can anyone give me any tips or advice. We've done controlled crying but she will cry continuously and won't just lay there so you can check on her. Wants to get my evenings back plus our 9year old keeps coming into ours early hours so getting very crowded.

Use a nightlight
Have some soft music playing, or record yourself reading a story and have that playing.
Start a reward chart. Make sure she understands what it's for, get her to chose the stickers that go on it and ask her to suggest a prize that she gets when she falls asleep in her own bed 5 times.
Let her help pick out her own duvet cover and pillow case set
Try getting a pillow pet
Put one of these in her bed www.amazon.co.uk/Handmade-Microwave-Animal-Elephant-Childrens/dp/B00A29R7XC?tag=mumsnetforum-21
Sleep inducing pillow spray www.boots.com/this-works-baby-sleep-pillow-spray-75ml-10163633

I would do it very gently. I agree with a reward chart and making it all very special. Then a bedtime routine finishing with a story in bed. I would then sit with her until she falls asleep. During the night take her back to bed with minimal talking and eye contact. Lots of praise for waking in own bed. Gradually sit slightly further away every few nights until you are out of the room. I bought the book ‘teach your child to sleep’. It has good ideas for babies but I am sure it had ideas for toddlers as well. You have to think about how long she has been in this current routine so it will take quite a while to Establish a new one.

Thankyou for the ideas.she doesn't talk yet which makes the reward chart slightly tricky at the moment. I stayed with her last night until she fell asleep but she woke up again at 11.

Hey, my DD is the same and can be very clingy, she always wants us to stay with her in her room. Recently we've started to be more consistent, put her to bed reassure her we're doing a job or something and will be back soon. If she continues to cry we go back in and comfort and continue the process. Some nights it may take up to 45 minutes for her to go off however since doing this she has settled herself off without us and stays asleep all Night not expecting us to go in with her. The first night was awful tho I do admit!! Consistency is the key!xx

She may not be taking but I bet you she understands a lot of what you're saying if you explain the chart. It's still something exciting for her.
But yes, making it special with fairy lights and a routines of books and cuddles. Maybe getting a new Teddy that is specially just for night time? Make a little story about how it will help her dream in her bed or something.
My dd won't sleep unless she has two big teddies and whatever teddy is going through the phases of being played with constantly, along with her favourite blanket.
Also sound machine she knows means bed time, and I think it just helps distract them from hearing her dad and me Potter about the house...