Introducing the new man

[RagingFeminician]

Myself and the husband split up in May. We have two daughters aged 17 and 13 who live with me. Everything is pretty amicable, the Ex has moved out and I rather surprisingly have found myself in a wonderful new relationship. All great so far.
When I started seeing the New Man, my youngest said she’d like to meet him so he came over for the evening and they got on well, in fact really well. The day after, though, she told her dad that although he is really nice, meeting him made her feel uncomfortableness and she doesn’t want to be around when he comes over.
I’m worried that I have messed things up now and that I have introduced him too soon. Anyone been through this sort of thing and have any advice?

I think the general consensus on mumsnet is that you should wait a good long time before introducing new partners. Better to wait until you are certain that this new person is definitely a permanent addition and you are seriously considering remarriage/moving in. Then obviously the kids need to start getting used to the new status quo - though you need to keep putting their wellbeing first and ensure they know it.

I think you probably did do this too quickly this time. Lesson learned hopefully.