TEENAGERS! HELP ME!

[OhSoStressed]

So my oldest is 16... never had one this old before!
very bright, always has been.
Year 11 - GCSEs coming up - he's failing miserably, however I try to help he's just not interested daily phone calls from school about lack of interest / effort, he's currently looking at Ds and below throughout his exams.
personal hygiene is none existent lacking. Im still having to remind him daily to brush teeth and shower. HES 16!
He's been offered several part time/weekend jobs which he does for a couple of weeks then doesn't bother going back to.
He's lazy around the house, would rather just lay in bed.
I knew teenagers were meant to be difficult, but RN banging my head against a brick wall seems like the best option.

Please for the love of god, someone help me before I lose the will to live I'm about out of ideas
Thanks

Hmmm.... not showering....
Could he be depressed?

I would be thinking depression too. Is he finding GSCE year overwhelming?

My younger DS was exact like this at 16. He did very badly at gcse despite being at a grammar school. Now in second year of an extended btec at college. To be honest he isn't much better and nothing I do seems to make difference. The only thing getting me through without resorting to murder is the fact that my older DS was almost the same at that age, but has grown up, seen the light and is now doing well at university. Hang in there. It is normal for some of these teenagers. (But goodness it is hard work).

DSS was same. Rubbish at school, lazy, unresponsive, no hygiene. He's 17 in a couple months and seems to be turning a page. He stays with us on weekends and now will have 2 showers n brush his teeth without his dad having to ask. Still lazy, but dh keeps on telling me it's low self esteem(??)

I think sometimes boys can do this if they think they're failing. They behave badly so that that is blamed, if they fail. It's self-sabotage.

I'd go back to the beginning and try to help him with his work, or arrange for a teacher to spend time with him.

With regard his personal hygiene, I'd keep going on that because he won't have any friends at all if he doesn't wash.