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Transitioning from part time to full time work

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backinaminute · 29/11/2018 04:31

Yesterday I was successful at interview and I have accepted (as yet informally) a really exciting new role.

I've worked part time since going back to work after maternity leave but this job will be full time. There isn't really any scope for negotiation on that and to be honest, they job is a public sector county wide role so even if they did agree to reduced hours the work load wouldn't change. I have reached a point having worked part time but struggled to keep to my hours that I would actually like to be paid for the work I do.

There are hundreds of threads on here and articles all over the internet about the advantages of part time work but please will you share with me some advantages of full time.

I'm lying awake at 4.30 am, panicking on the impact of this on my 2 DS, they are 6 and 7 and used to be being around after school a couple of days a week. I'm also panicking about holidays and just general logistics. I will also have an hour long commute.

The job itself is really exciting and a huge opportunity for me. I feel like I've 'treaded water' career wise since having the boys and this is my chance to really make a difference and will open lots of doors. I just feel so overwhelming guilty for putting what I want above the children.

My DP is supportive. He is their DF and is very hands on. He will be doing most of the breakfast club drop offs etc because I will have to leave earlier. My plan is to start early so I get home at a reasonable time - that won't be an issue. I feel very lucky to have had the time I have had with them.

So I guess is what I'm asking is for all your amazing 'I didn't fuck the kids' up stories about working full time and how it's all going to be ok. Any amazing tips on how to make this easier for them and me would also be hugely appreciated.

Thank you

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losingmymindiam · 29/11/2018 04:45

I'm sorry I can't tell you won't mess up the kids as I don't know. But there are plenty of people who work full time from the time they return from maternity leave, single parents etc who have no choice. If the time you do spend with them is quality, they will be fine I'm sure. If the before and after school provision is good, they will enjoy themselves, and you will appreciate the time you have with them. You could be around after school half the week and resent them, be unhappy yourself, get irritated etc and that is not ideal either. Do what will make you happy and as long as they are well looked after and happy, all should be well.

backinaminute · 29/11/2018 06:19

Thank you. They do love a new after school club. Before they were trudging off to a childminder but didn't like it so we changed. I think that has given me the confidence to go for this.

In fact twice I've gone to pick them up early from after school club (about half 3ish) and I've ended up leaving one there (and DP going to get them after work) because he was busy with a friend.

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losingmymindiam · 29/11/2018 07:13

Yep when mine went to after school club they used to get really cross with me if I picked them up early! I would go for it if it's a job you really want to do.

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