Argh!!!

[helpmebreathe]

I just need to scream!

I've just lost it today, can't stop crying.
I have a DP and 2 DC, me and my DP work full time (him more hours) so everything is left me to including looking after my Friends child a few times a week.
Everyday is so chaotic, work, housework, sorting the pets we have, taking DC to football a few times a week and other clubs. Feeding, bathing, washing, food shopping. EVERYTHING! I'm so tired just so tired. It's very rare I only have to think about myself (my job involves looking after other people)
I'd love to just go somewhere once a week for a few hours by myself.

Why do you look after your friends child a few times a week if you feel like this? It's incredibly kind of you to do so, but if you're not coping then surely that would be one of the first things to go?

Have you also tried talking to your partner and see if he can do one of the errands?

You poor gal, you sound exhausted. Would your friend return the favour and take your kids for an evening so you could have an hour or two to yourself?

I don’t understand why everything is left to you? Your DH must have some time off work?!
Perhaps you need to give up one or two after school activities, or see if your friend can make other childcare arrangements.

PS here’s a , you sound done in.

She's my best friend and a single parent so I help her out, she would return the favour but she's in the same boat as me. My DP is useless, he thinks because he works more hours he shouldn't have to do anything round for the house or for the Dc no matter how much I ask, demand or beg.

Do you have any family nearby?
Could your friend take your DC for an afternoon at the weekend so you can have a couple of hours break?
Sorry to be blunt but is there much point in actually staying with your DP?

Leave.

Leave and go stay with your mum or someone for a few days. See how he gets on.

Or go on strike.

Pls tell me you food shop online? Do so and have it arrive when your DH is home to unload it, if he’s home in time to ferry the DC to football he can, if not he can take the pet care off your hands. Start off loading the odd thing, this is a household, everyone plays their part across the board.