Residency order help

[pumpkin09]

Hi all,

I need some help, but please don’t judge me.

I had a baby at 18 years old with my partner who is not interested in anything to do with his child.

I had an extreme difficult labour which lead to emergency caesarian as we nearly died. I was suffering from postnatal depression but instead of my parents / family supporting me they just hanged up on me claiming i was an unfit parent. This led to extra midwife/ social services visits. They claimed I was an alcoholic and drug addict which I’ve never taken drugs in my life as I’ve seen what it can do to you, because there was a bottle of wine on the side and an empty rizzla packet in the waste bin. I was so distraught I didn’t know whether I was coming or going. I was so scared I was doing something wrong but it was because I refused to move back home with my mother that they did this. It’s wasnt because she cared either it was because she would get extra benefit and I would have to give her money. I tried to not let it get to me but the social services cake down on me hard and instead of the supporting me they said they have decided to take the baby so I can get some rest bite! They said my child would be back with me after the weekend. After that dad and his wife found out that my son was in a foster home for weekend and took all measures to take him away from me. They applied for a residency order with social services support. This order I was brain washed to sign for what was best for my baby. They knew I wasn’t well and they knew damn well they weren’t going to help me. This order had terms and conditions where I could have access via my grandmother which had never come to light.

I tried to contact them i to get acces to only get rejected. Apart of me gave up for his best interests as it’s all he knows and it would break him up so much. But This has broken me down for the last 14 years I’m tired of thinking I’m doing what’s best for my son when what’s best is being with me. I want contact with my son. I need help has anyone gone through anything like this have they gone to court to fight back?

There isn’t one ounce of responsibility from you in that entire story. Nothing whatsoever.
I think that’s where you need to start. Social workers don’t remove babies from their mother lightly, so look at what they’re saying and address their concerns. You will be okay. Just try accept the concerns, accept the fact you’re an adult and you can’t blame everyone else for what’s happening in your life. Hopefully you’ll have your little baby home soon

Edit. Oh my god. I see this has been 14 years. You need to assess what’s best for your son in this time of his life. How well does he know you? How much access did you have? How often did you actually see him? I think it would be very unfair to take him out of the home and family he knows for the uncertainty of a life with you, if you have not kept in regular contact with him. You are an adult and you need to accept your part to play in this. You’re lacking any responsibility whatsoever, every single thing you posted has been followed by an excuse or blame. This isn’t helping you. I do wish you the best.