Jesus, this isn't fun! Will it get better? I think I might go mad!

[bohemianbint]

DS is 10 months old and has just learnt how to pull himself up on the furniture. Suddenly my whole day is spent chasing after him, stopping him eating gravel, pulling things on his head etc. I can't get anything done, the house is a shit hole, everything is going wrong with everything (car, washing machine fighting with DP etc) and I don't get 2 mins to do anything. If I put him down for even a minute in his travel cot so I can get something done he goes mental and screams the house down. DP works 56 hour weeks sometimes and gets 1 day off in about 11. Therefore am on my own all the time with no help and unless I'm walking with the pushchair all day (which gets a bit boring after a while!) it's just whinge whinge whinge all day. I'm practically living on painkillers because my back hurts so much (prob from all the bending and slouching.)I feel like am going to go mad! Please, someone tell me this is just a passing phase!! Sorry for being so ranty and miserable, I'm just not really enjoying my life much at the mo.

me too .

Oh dear. I can sympathise. It does get better, promise. Ds is not 19mo and I have finally started to feel like I am getting sane again. It is really hard if your dh works such long hours too. Don't worry about the house, and don't let anyone have a go at you about it either.

When they walk it is better - walk with him instead of putting in bugg, exhaust him and he will sleep longer in day and at night. Also the putting things in mouth will fade fairly soon and you can leave him unsupervised. I leave my ds to play in garden on his own now and have done since he was about 16mo.

ds is NOW 19mo

honwy. Big hugs. Calm.

Childlocks.

All cds/dvds/books/magazines/pot plants out of reach.

He/she/ will bang their heads etc, it's unavoidable, don't stress it's all learning.

I had forgotten what this bit was like. I have a 2.9 year old and a 10 month old, and the latter has in the last two weeks, learnt to crawl, pull himsef to standing, cruise along the furniture and climb the stairs. OMIGOD!!!

It is really hard work and he has been really really clingy and needy today and nearly driven me insane. I had to stick a DVD on for DS1 this afternoon just to literally follow DS2 around the house picking him up when he got bored and started whinging! The only other alternative was sticking him in his high chair and giving him food, but as he weighs 27.2 pounds already I am trying to not use that opton too much!

My Dh does not work away but is a fisherman and remembers he has kids when it suits so I know how it feels to be on your own alot. Come on here whenever you feel down. i am sure you are doing a great job.

Bloss

xxx

first word should be honey.

DS2 is sporting a huge bruised egg on his forehead from headbutting the bed leg this morning and a cut on his nose where he was swiped by his brother with a helicopter blade this afternoon.

DS1 is 2.5 and DS2 is 4months, we recently got a cleaner and I don't regret it one bit.
It really is worth the money, if you can afford it then go for it.

Try and think about the positives. DS1 has a development delay, and for more than a year he would harly move. So now when I see him climbing on the table, and grabbing things he shouldn't I am the happiest woman on earth.

I think kids need to do these things to explore and learn. So I have decided to choose my battles carefully. I will say NO to him only if it really is something dangerous. Otherwise I try to distract him with something else. I have found that he responds much better to distraction and play than to NO. I also stored away anything that might break, hurt him, etc. I think the more you keep saying no no no to them, the more they do it.