Help! My 4 year old is being picked on

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My DD started school in September. Since starting she has been picked on by one particular girl in her class. It started with scratches to her hand, then a 4inch scratch to her face - they were playing cats and the other girl was playing the 'bad cat'. I spoke to the school and they stopped them playing cats. The next day they started playing horses, the other girl was 'the bad horse', no incident happened until a week later when the other girl and a boy kicked then chased my DD, the boy laid on top of my DD holding her down and the girl pushed my DD's face into the grass - this incident was witnessed by a teacher, but we weren't told! My DD told us of the above incident! She is only 4yrs old! The teacher confirmed my DD's version of events! Horrified that we weren't told! We then had half term and 2 weeks without incident, I thought that it had all settled down until last week when the other girl intentionally flicked hand sanitiser in my DD's face. We are now scheduled to have a meeting with the head teacher. Any advice would very much be appreciated.

I wouldn’t take this lightly. You’ve clearly outlined multiple times with the teacher of the class by the sounds of things so I would request a meeting with the principal and the teacher both together. If this is not dealt with immediately then I would be telling them that you will be writing a letter to the board of management

I would also advise your daughter not to partake in any games with this other child

Thank you Fabaunt. We're having a meeting with the head teacher and her teacher, so hoping to resolve the issue. It's just awful not knowing whether she is going to be safe at school, every day I'm anxious when collecting her, just hoping that she has had a good day. I agree she needs to avoid this girl.

I hope the teacher has already notified the other child’s parents of her physopathic tendencies

Make sure the school don't try to make your DD a scapegoat. She is being bullied and the school needs to deal with the children who are bullying your DD. Your DD shouldn't have to endure this at school.

Fabaunt I hope they have been informed too, though the teachers are quite cagey when I ask.

llangennith my concerns too, they have already tried to play it down and are dismissive of previous incidents just choosing to deal with each incident as an individual act. My concern is that the incidents are getting worse and I worry what might happen next, which is why I am determined to get this sorted now and stand my ground.