My 15 year old daughter is struggling with her identity. She is 15, but only looks about 12-13. She has autism and ADD and struggles with making and keeping friends, she seems to be drawn to transgender and girls in conflict with their identity. She spends all her time designing and making LGBT posters, pictures, etc and wants to dress like a boy. She has recently had her hair cut short, and although the deal was she styles it each morning to make it look like a girls pixie cut rather than a boys haircut she is failing to do this. She has tried to go out of the house with just one earring in, and is constantly finding ways to look like a boy. She has also recently told me she is lesbian, but the followings day told me boys are sexier.
My thought on this is she is copying to fit in and due to her autism is doing what she Thinks is expected rather than making a rational decision for herself. I don't think she is being bullied as she has been accused of copying by one of the girls who is identifying as a boy.
I would not have a problem with this choice if I knew it was genuine, but I'm afraid it is taking over her life and true identity and I don't have a clue how to deal with it. Any one with experience of this and any suggestions would be great.