Hi All
Me and my ex are separated. We have a 3 mth old and I currently look after my son every other weekend and one evening per week.
She is German and off to Germany for 3 weeks shortly and then another 3 weeks end of Feb which i am not best pleased about. 3 Weeks is too long, They grow so fast so i find it difficult, upsetting.
The real issue here though is she is planning to go to a festival. It's basically beer tents and in the past a tradition every year. She is planning to leave our son with her German friends mother who he doesn't know and in an environment he has never been in. As a father this worries me as if anything was to happen my ex will be in no fit state (drunk) or within a safe distance to do anything about it.
No issues with her having fun but not at the expense of our sons safety. Leave him him me in the UK. By all means see friends and family but take responsibility of our son. You can't have you cake and eat it springs to mind.
FYI - Since finding out my ex was secretly seeing someone before our boy was born she has consequently become very bitter, resentful, angry and controlling. Almost as though I've scuppered her plans at playing the victim and she looks a bit of a plonker really.
Don't need this single mother power trip speech please. I'm a decent guy who want to be there as much as I can for my little man. Ive jumped straight into looking after him over the weekend and take full responsibility. Thanks.