dad in odd complaint abotu ds3

[Dogsby]

ok ds3 a little headstrong
dad came around ( i wasout getting ds2) and ds3 was upstaris ready for bed

dad went upstairs

ds3 said" i dont want you fo my storeis i want mummy"( he was expecting me btu i had had ot rush out)

ds3 was off

dad rang up to complain ds3 was rude
dh said he told ds3 off and that he wastired and htat ds3 cant alway be dlighted ot see him
i think ds3 need s little bit mroe manners

but was he rude? he stated a fact ' i don't want you for stories I want Mummy'

Would it be referable to teach a child to hide their feelings and pretend ( for an adults sake) to pretend they are happy when they are not?

DD ca be just like that with my father. Makes me very embarrassed as I know how keen my dad is on her. Think she knows it too, so less keen to impress (in same vein she can be staggeringly rude to me).
She will be 4 soon. Wish she'd be less grumpy at times.
I would hate hate hate to have a call from my mother saying dd no longer cute/lovely. That'd send me over the edge into teary eyed wobbly lipped state.

Dd1 is often rude, she wont let my mum or dh put her to bed, if dh trys she say's 'nooooooooooo mummy put me to bed, daddy's rubish'

She told the woman up the road to 'go away' a few weeks ago

i have an idea

coach him so that next time he sees your dad he says

no no fuck off you old tosser if you come anywhere near me I'll rip your arms off and slap you with the wet bits

THEN anything after that ie normal 4yo rudeness will seem mild in comparison and you can be smug about how much ds3s behaviour has improved

(god I am aged parent disgruntledness management genius I think)

when my dd was aged 4 she once said to me in front of my mother: Grandma's fat

My dd has lovely manners now

yes
i htink its peronality type tbh

ds3 si the alan sugar of the preschool world

so basically he was saying to your dad You're fired

thast it
wihtt eh finger..
arf nad the facal hair

he sometiems refuses to speak to dad ont he phoen too

does he wear his heart on his sleeve, ds3?

one of mine (dd) can be incredibly rude because she is very direct (and also very good with words, like her dad ggrr).

I also think it's a personality type.

dd1 told my MIL that "grandma has a fat bottom, mummy hasn't, why grandma why why why?" and followed her round the house repeating it

hahahahahahahahahaah

Ah but the grandkids are hugely important in the grandparents' lives, and they do want so much to be loved by them. I expect he was feeling very upset that ds didn't welcome him on this ocassion. Perhaps your mum has felt the same on other ocassions. Its easy to think "oh, they should grow up", but human nature is human nature. It'll blow over. Don't be hard on either of them. Sure you wouldn't be anyway.

Your DS3 wasn't rude to your Dad, just honest.

Good God, I'm ruder than that when tired

My kids are super polite to grandparents, because they hardly see them! Surly your dad knows that kids often let their emotions out to people they are comfy with (thats why mums get all the crap!!) And your ds was just taking out his disappointment that you were going. Its not great to be rude, but he is just 3!!