Unfair grandparents

[misskxx]

Hi MN I'm hoping you can give me your advice and opinions please.
My lb is 3 months old and I'm struggling with my OH's parents (dad and stepmam). I really feel like everything is for show with them and they like to show my son off, which I feel really uncomfortable with. My father-in-law has a really good job and likes to flash the cash with his wive's family, if they ask for things money is no object. My partners stepmum's best friends son has a 6 month old baby and they've spent a fortune on her. However when they asked what we would like for Christmas for our little boy I sent a link to a high chair only to be told that it was far too expensive (it was a mid price one). I don't want to come across as petty as I know it's not all about material things but I can't help but be frustrated!
What would you do? I don't want to cause an argument or come across as petty but my son is only 3 months old and the longer this goes on the more unfair I think it will become. I think this issue stems as they've always overlooked my partner but I thought things would change as my baby is there first born grandchild.

It’s absolutely nothing got to do with you how much they earn or what they spend their money on. Ask them what budget they’re extending for the gift and choose from there.

I can kind of understand how you feel but I would personally not raise it as an issue to them.
At the end of the day, it's a gift, and you should be gracious about how much they want to spend.
I can also understand why you want a link to an exact present but it's kind of rude to do that. Just ask for a highchair with the kind of spec you'd like and let them choose.

I send grandparents when they ask links to 6-7 items covering prices from a tenner to eight quid. They then choose and I know ds needs the item

There's not much you can do is there? Ask what their budget is and move on. It's up to them how they spend their money.