Hello Everyone,
This is my first post on here :) just looking for an insight into your family dynamics where the OH and parenting is concerned.
I have two boys aged 2 years and 10 months. They are the most wonderful but exhausting little things and I cherish every second with them. I am however questioning if the dynamic within my home is normal... or something that I should even be tolerating?
OH is a hard working guy - he works full time but as do I. I get up in the morning, see to the children, give them breakfast, dress them, and drop them at nursery/grandparents ahead of work. He just rolls out of bed at 08:00 and gets into work at 08:45...
After work, I call at the shops on my way home to pick up any urgent groceries, I collect both children, take them home, feed them, bath them, play with them and do bedtime routines, put them to bed. He goes straight to the gym from work and rolls in about 15 minutes before bedtime. Sometimes the youngest is already in bed...
At weekends, he sees his older son from his previous relationship who is 14 and has little time for his two younger brothers. He then spends more time at the gym or goes out to do his own thing. I spend most time with my own family or just with the kids on my own.
I don't go out much with my friends or do anything outside of the home as he seems incapable of successfully looking after both children. I am therefore pretty much confined to the house constantly whilst he lives a life as if he has no kids!
When I speak to people about this they laugh and say 'that's just men love!'. Is this the same for others on here? Is it normal to feel that you are a single mum, living in a relationship with your babies' Dad?