AIBU?

[georgia1509]

My partner works mon-fri. We have a 6 month old, when he comes home he doesn't seem to play with out ds, they only have an hour ish together before he goes to bed. I have spoke to him about this and told him I'd like him to spend a bit of time with him. At the weekends my partner like to stay in bed till 10/11am. He complains when I ask him to wake up. AIBU? I know he works during the week and is up early but so am, it just really annoys me, we have a child,he has responsibilities. If I didn't wake him up,he'd be happy to stay in bed all day. Some times I feel like I'm a single parent and it really annoys me because I'm not. I've spoke to him about it but he doesn't seem to change anything

My husband works 10am until 10pm 5 days a week and on these days I don't expect any help of him at all with the kids.
I'm lucky enough to be a stay at home mum.

On his days off he understandably wants a couple of extra hours to him self either in the morning or the evening. He's worked long hours all week after all! In turn I get a few hours to my self on either day he's off too. And then we have a nice day out or something as a family.

Your partner isn't a machine and working long hours all week can burn a person out a bit.
He needs a rest too, obviously within reason!

I sympathise OP, my husband has always been a ‘good sleeper’ and I don’t think men adjust to having a baby quite as spontaneously as a mum does. They need a bit of a nudge. I think you could find a moment when you are both in a good mood and broach the subject of some time off yourself at the weekends, and ask him very specifically what you would like him to do.

Can you ask him to get up and do breakfast one or both days so you can have an extra hour in bed? My DH sometimes has a nap with my son later in the morning, to make up for the early start.

Maybe you could agree that he will take DS out somewhere each Saturday or Sunday for a few hours so you have some downtime or can catch up stuff that’s hard to do when you are looking after the baby. Or just play it week by week and say ‘I want to do x on Saturday so I need to entertain DS for a few hours in the morning’.

In my own circle of mums everyone seemed to go through this sort of thing in the first few months. When baby takes a massive leap in development from about 7/8 months onwards they turn into ‘real’ little people and can be fun to be around. You might find dad naturally finds it more fun to spend time with him during this phase.

Sleeps till when at the weekend? Is he having a laugh, he has a baby. I work full time, out the house 8-6 during the week, my husband is self employed and does some of the child care in the weekday. When I get home I take over with bath, story, bottle and bed and at the wkend I’m up with my 15month old as early as 5.30/6am. Tell him to get a bloody grip, he has a family!

My partner works the same mon-fri 9-5. But gets home at 6, DD goes to bed at 7. I had a chat with him last week about interacting with her for that hour, I know his been at work all day but I’ve been entertaining a 1&1/2 year old all day which also ain’t easy! But also because he should want to... he hasn’t seen her all day. Both our chill time is when she goes to bed at 7pm. So I 100% agree with you he should dedicate that hour to his daughter. We also split lay ins on the weekends so he’ll have Saturday & I’ll have Sunday or vice versa. Both can sleep till when ever you want... you need to have a chat OP YANBU!

Sorry your son not daughter

OnlyFoolsnMothers I honestly thought I was expecting too much from him! Glad I'm not the only one thinking this. I also have post natal depression and this is our first baby so I'm honestly having a really hard time. I wouldn't mind if he stayed in bed till 9 but staying in bed till half 10/11 is taking the piss. When I spoke to him about it and said you have a family,he isn't just about you anymore he just brushed it off as me moaning at him. He also got in the bath at 4:30 on Sunday, why would someone get in the bath at this time when they have a child! He could of easily had a bath at night when he was in bed! It's just really getting to me 😭

My dh always interacts with the kids when he gets in from work does he not even have a cuddle with them or speak to them?

Sorry OP, whilst it is not an excuse some men literally dont realise their lives have changed, whereas women, our lives change the minute we know we are pregnant.
Do you cook for him, do his washing, clean the house? My advice to you if so is dont do this for him for a while. just tell him "my job is looking after the baby, you seem to think you dont need to do anything but your job so Im doing the same"