Feeling lonely and not being able to go out.

[alexh3012]

Hi everyone,

I'm needing a bit of advice.

I gave birth to my baby boy just over a year ago. I'm struggling with feeling lonely and not being able to go out myself with him.

I moved to the mainland from an island 2 years ago and met my partner and fell pregnant pretty quickly. I was looking for work before having my baby and because I had many complications with pregnancy, it meant I never had the chance to go to work and find work friends and because I am new to the area, I don't know anyone.

I do go to a toddler group once a week with my son but I struggle to go out the door to take him.

My partner is also struggling with me. He doesn't work at the minute (he is looking) as his business took an unfortunate turn so he is home most of the time. There is a 28 year age gap between us and he feels I'm being childish. I ask him to run me places and ask him to go with me so that I know someone is there. All we do is argue.

Can someone help?

What do you mean you struggle to go out? Anxiety, poor transport or something else?

I think mainly anxiety, I feel like something bad is going to happen then I start panicking and I can't breathe.

Keep pushing yourself to go out to keep as much confidence going as you can muster.

Are you able to invite another mother for a coffee to your house? You may find that this mum sometimes feels lonely too.

As for your partner telling you that you are childish. Well that's nonsense. You need his support not his criticism.

It is not unusual to lose some confidence when you have a baby but this level of anxiety is beyond that. You need to see your Gp.

In the meantime keep pushing yourself to go out.