Do you say this to your child?

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"Go and live with your Dad" and "You're a Daddy's girl/boy and it really upsets me" also "You love your Dad more than me"

Are these normal things to say? Do you say it if you are stressed or because deep down you want the child to live with Father full time?

If I said anything like that to my child I would consider it a massive failure. It’s emotionally manipulative and really unkind.
No not normal- though I’m sure it happens.

Sounds like the parents actually still a child

No where near child age.

She rarely has their child, always managed to have Dad mostly, but found anyone to take the child off her hands but claimed to be a lone single parent to anyone that would listen.

She's pushed the kid closer to the other parent anyway by physically not being around, and it's the kids fault she doesn't feel loved as much? This kids still young and she's been saying these things for a few years now.

This is the mother's massive insecurities showing - glaringly.
No-one should talk to a child like that, it puts confusing pressure on the child.

The mother must just get on with her life, make the most of the time she has with the little one, and keep schtum about her feelings on that score.

It's emotionally abusive to say these things to a child.

I couldn't get cross around my mum, or at least show it in my face, because if my face was angry she would physically flinch away from me and say "Ugh, you look just like your father". I was 18 when I finally replied "Well, you chose him!". Also regular tantrums about him being Father Christmas who turned up when he felt like it and got all the glory, rants about maintenance and telling us my stepfather was twice the father ours was, etc etc. I remember this stuff from the age of 5. Her dislike of him and insecurity about my relationship with him was her problem, it shouldn't have been mine.

I think it's quite serious emotional abuse, personally.

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OP listen to the episode “Parental Alienation” of the Getting Curious Podcast.