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AIBU or should we have sat separately?

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user1489179870 · 14/11/2018 17:41

Just back from a day trip on our holiday, we were only just on time as my 3 year old needed the loo last minute and we had to whizz to the loo. We were on time not late at all but this meant we were the last three on the bus, me, my three year old daughter and husband. The three remaining seats were all dotted over the bus, one in the back seat, one next to the tour guide and one in the middle of the bus. No one offered to move, a man said my daughter could sit next to him but I declined and said we couldn’t travel if separated like this for a one hour bus journey. A very kind lady offered to move from her seat into the empty seat so I could sit with daughter and hubby say at the front. All ok but we said for the way back we must get on sooner to sit together. When got back on the people were saying the seats were theirs and saying I was ‘ignorant’ I was really upset, my husband asked what their problem was and he got an ear bashing too. They were so angry, I was shocked and tried explaining that we wanted to sit together as daughter was tired. Just wondered what others thought, the trip is off a cruise so all other passengers are older adults and some not very tolerant of children but I thought some would understand and remember having children of their own.

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RCohle · 14/11/2018 19:08

I would have sent my husband onto the bus to save seats when taking my daughter to the loo. I would probably have expected someone to offer to move so that one parent could sit next to a young child, but I would have inwardly tutted that you hadn't got on the bus earlier. I would have expected to sit on the same seats back as I did on the way out.

You sound a bit PFB to be honest. Having a kid doesn't make you more important or more deserving of a specific seat than anyone else on the trip.

christmaaaas · 14/11/2018 19:22

You're getting a hard time here. We got sold a "family" cruise by Thomson. There was absolutely nothing for our 3 year old to do at any time of day. The other passengers were completely up their own arses. Nothing family orientated about it.

Just point out that your daughter has paid the same as they have to be there.

And for people saying the husband should've got on and saved a seat, what if the bus set off with just him on it?! Although I wouldn't be bothered about sitting together.

al2002 · 14/11/2018 19:28

Definitely not ignorant. Sound a rude bunch of people.
Also:
No idea why people expect to sit in the same seats on the way back.
First come, first served etc,you've all paid for the same trip after all.

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Fabaunt · 14/11/2018 19:44

You were being unreasonable expecting other people to move for you. You expected other families to sit apart so you could sit together. Obviously seats back are the same as seats there. Be more organized in future

BackforGood · 15/11/2018 00:35

YABU to get on last and expect to be able to sit together, yes. I am another that doesn't understand why 2 parents would move out of a queue for the bus to take 1 child to the toilet. Surely the obvious thing to do would be for 1 parents to wait in the queue then save your seats when the bus arrived whilst the other took the child to the toilet ?

I do't know about the 'sitting in same seats' as have never been on a cruise nor excursions from a holiday, but have to agree it isn't an issue to sit apart from your dh (but stilll on the same bus) for an hour, as long as your little one was with one of her parents.

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