What do you do if a child keeps hurting your child?.

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There is a child who keeps hurting my child who has sensory problems and anxiety (mine) and doesnt like to be touched. They sometimes all tease each other about crushes and video games but anyone who knows fortnight is all about killing and this boy is very much into it and constantly talks about it.
When someone says something he doesnt like he jumps on him and pulls him to the ground or gets him in a neck hold or pushes down on his neck as well as alot of swearing. The parent says its as 'good as he gets' if he is being teased (which was startef by this boy)and will do nothing to stop him.

At school or in social situations? I'd be keeping my child away either way.

Where we live, they all play out with neighbourhood kids together.

I'd keep my child in then and let them invite the other kids to play in the garden, but not the aggressive one.

Easier said than done to keep them in as they are older now and its very difficult to separate them. They all mix.What would you say to the parent who is giving a clear message that its ok for him to do this!.

I have a rule with my dds first time someone hurts them tell an appropriate adult
Are you able to stay out watching the kids? How old are they?

Second time they get hurt hit back hit hard

As awful as it sounds if your son gives as good as he gets this boy will probably back off if you keep him in he is just going to get isolated

Well how old is your DS? Does your DS do anything to cause retaliation?
Is your DS left with any marks or bruises after?
If your DS is completely innocent in this, I'd have another, more stern word with the boy's PGs and explain that it's gone beyond playing and is assault. Ask them firmly to please get their son to stop. If they refuse, say you'll call the police and do so if it continues. It sounds very rough and is assault. Completely unnacceptable if your DS does nothing to instigate.
Would be good to know their ages for contact though.

They are 11. He doesnt fight back and has walked away. He has participated in mutual teasing but its all about crushes and silly things. Nothing nasty or serious.. This was about a video game and it is because he doesnt agree that its the greatest game!.. he thumped my son on the arm. My son tried to walk away and the kid jumped on his back and pulled him down. He is also stalking him in the neighbourhood with other kids. The parents dont want to know they say he must have been winding him up for their son to behave like this. But actually this is common behaviour for their son with other children too.

Do they go to the same school?
If the parents don't care about aggressive behaviour, maybe the school will.

No not the same school.