When did you start putting baby to bed bed on their own?

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Our baby is only 5 weeks old so it's still early days but I'm just curious about when you all started putting your babies up to bed on their own so you and your partner had some of the evening to yourselves. Did you wait untill they are in there own room?

We currently give our baby a feed at 10pm and put him down to sleep when he's finished and we then go to bed at the same time. He sleeps for 4-5 hours before waking for the next feed so we are pretty lucky so far. Obviously we know this could all change!

I think at about 3 months I would put my daughter down upstairs then go down for a glass of wine and uninterrupted hot dinner!
I would be back up again within 2 hours because she was an awful sleeper, but that little window of time was great

(She was still in our room, with the monitor on)

It just happened naturally.
When they dropped the 11pm ish feed I think it was.
You forget so quickly. Mine are 8 months nearly 9. Twins.

As soon as I got home from the hospital. Honestly, it never occurred to me not to. All my babies slept in my room for naps and at night.

For first and second advice was in their own rooms from birth. After a big gap was advised to put baby in with us for six months, which I did. I wonder if the advice will change again.

There was a rather contentious thread last week which is quite similar that you may find interesting

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3417322-To-leave-7-week-old-alone-in-bedroomwith-a-baby-monitor

About 3 years old hahaha

All depends on the baby doesn’t it.

I believe the adults should bend to the child not the other way round. The powerful humbling themselves to the weak is kind of a life principle of mine.

Both mine slept in a crib in my bedroom for naps and night, we lived in a large flat and had a monitor. Moved into own room by about 3/4 months. We never had them in the living room with us in the evenings.

Depends on how strict you are with SIDS guidelines. I was terrified of anything happening to dd so kept her with me for naps and bedtime till she was 9/10 months

She sleeps in her own room for all naps and nighttime absolutey fine now though! The transition was a lot less painful than I imagined.

DD had a bedtime at 6 weeks
DS at 4 weeks

Both of them would get to 6pm and we'd have a minimum of two hours non stop screaming. Neither would sleep on us, in a swing, in a cot in the living room, nothing worked. We'd spend every evening taking turns to hold a screaming, thrashing baby while the other ate tea or took a shower.
With both of them we put them in their cot in our room and they'd go straight to sleep. They'd be in their on their own for maybe four hours maximum (with regular checks and a monitor on) before we came to bed. The crib was alongside my side of the bed.
Worked for us and was much better all round!

Day 1! Our bedroom was much to small for a cot.

As soon as we came home? I never understood why new parents had to be watching over their newborn 24/7, going to bed at 7pm because the baby did, taking baby in the bathroom while they showered or used the loo etc. I just left baby in a bouncer/Moses basket/playmat while I got things done and put baby to bed at 7pm while I watched telly in peace. Probably going to have someone judge me for it but I don't really care 😂 its a baby, they don't move anywhere and they don't do anything. You can put them down somewhere while you have stuff to do and 99 times out of 100 they will just go to sleep. The beauty of newborns 😉

The SIDs risk, for one. And also because I adored being with my babies. You only get a few if you are lucky enough to get any at all!

I don’t get all this ‘too cool for school’ attitude around wanting to be with your babies. They are optional after all! Why wouldn’t you assume if someone has chosen to have a baby they’d want to be close to it. Much like you expect honeymooners to be together the whole time. It’s fine not to of course...but it’s not weird to spend 24/7 with a tiny baby who before you know it isn’t tiny, and is saying mummy I want to stay at granny’s house she’s more fun than you

Day 1. Never even thought about it. Did regular checks in her but I didn't see why she should sleep downstairs with TV and things in. Much more peaceful to sleep in her bed in our room.

I agree with fuckitbuckit. Mine went straight from the womb to boarding school. Needy little beggars, who would want to spend anytime with them, I might glance at them once they have a degree and a mortgage.

Well this is going very differently to the other thread so far!

At around 3 months we started putting her down in our room at 8-9pm, then we'd be downstairs with the monitor until her next feed around 11pm. Then into her own room with an earlier bedtime just before 6 months.

Around 5-7 months, but not every night. Increasingly more so that by 7 months it was pretty much every night.

As for why would you not just put them in another room, well you can if you want, but try to imagine that families and babies are different.

For example, the baby could be sharing a room with another child who is disturbed by them. Or may spend the evening cluster feeding in which case it was entirely pointless to even attempt to put them down. Or keeping the child with the adult might be done to protect them in light of safe sleep guidelines.

Or it might be done because a family wants to retain some freedom in the evenings and having a child used to spending evenings with the adult is much easier to take out and about at the portable stage than if you decide they must be shut up in a silent place.

For us a combination of all those things.

You can put them down somewhere while you have stuff to do and 99 times out of 100 they will just go to sleep

😂😂😫

Well this is going very differently to the other thread so far!

The magical difference of posting in AIBU v Parenting(!)

Or it might be done because a family wants to retain some freedom in the evenings and having a child used to spending evenings with the adult is much easier to take out and about at the portable stage than if you decide they must be shut up in a silent place.

I think that just like other aspects of 'good' sleeping - through the night, early bedtimes, etc - this is more about the babies themselves than something you can actively make happen. I really wanted to be a go-with-the-flow mum who had a baby who would sleep anywhere. DS had other ideas, and seems to want to be 'shut away'.

Maybe so, however due to my vast experience of parenting exactly two children, I’d say it can be influenced and in addition VERY much depends on the age and stage.

Some babies can be influenced

Some cannot

We are all different so are our babies

If I had a pound for every time someone said to me but it’s different with yours they have SEN, I’d be rich. I contend with sarcastically saying they didn’t come out with a helpful label detailing their needs and at 3m I had no idea.

I had planned for the 6 month as advised but it was more to 9months when I felt comfortable doing it, and because he was standing up trying to climb out if his crib 😜😜

Lots of mixed opinions here. I personally don't feel ready to start putting him to bed on his own (in our room) just yet but to those parents who have done it from day one good for you! I'm hoping we can start doing it by the time he is 3 months old and then by the time he is 6 months old and moves to his cot he will be used to going to bed on his own. Fingers crossed anyway haha. He is a good sleeper so far already so I hope the transition will go smoothly

There was a thread like this some months ago (No! Really?) and I said it never occurred to me for about the first year to give my dd a bedtime, and she just stayed with me the whole time. (Someone did me an @ tobee thing saying I was just trying to be a cool mum and it was important for babies to have a routine etc. I think most people would think I'm far from cool.)

Anyway, I now think, 23 years later, do what is instinctive to you and your baby. Straight from hospital own bedtime? Absolutely fine! Leave it till they're way older? Also absolutely fine! As long as everyone's happy and on the same page.