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Banned from House

8 replies

Mummy6661 · 09/11/2018 14:12

Hi All,

You may have read my other thread about hw i had hit rock bottom and basically tried to kill myself. I would call it that though as i literally do not know why i did what i did and didnt want to kill myself.

Anyway, since then my boyfriends parents have now banned me from their house and told him i made everything up on the night it all happened. They have said i have a dead end job(I am an accounts assistant studying my AAT level) and that im lazy, drama, and just trouble.
This has literally all come about due to what had happened on the night.
They dont want him seeing me or even talking to me yet he says he walked in on the night and believes i never made it up and i was not doing it for attention.

I generally never ever wanted any one to find out what had happened, i did not contact my boyfriend and did not want to tell him what i had did. I did not try to kill my self, i just had a lot to drink, took some tablets and passed out on the floor. I have severe depression and am taking medication. I had just hit rock bottom and was alone in my house which didnt help.
I never faked it and really didnt want any attention or any drama out of anything.

What do i do? My boyfriend said he will stick by me and stay at mine all nights instead of stay at his and said that he hates how his parents have portrayed me. He said that they are the sort of parents to kick off if they dont get their own way. They are very much a perfect little family so my drama is what they hate

What on earth do we do.Do you think we could survive this? We are planning on saving hard for a year to have enough to put a deposit down on ur first home...

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Laureline · 09/11/2018 15:55

What steps are you taking to get to a better place, from mental health perspective?
Are you in therapy? Have you seen a doctor?

This should be your priority right now - not what your BF’s parents may be thinking of you.

Mummy6661 · 09/11/2018 16:11

i understand that completely but the stress of that is adding to everything.

I am on medication and have weekly check ups with my doctor. I have also been going to speak to someone weekly.

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 09/11/2018 16:20

Having read your other thread, I’d leave him and I don’t say that lightly. When I was about your age I had a partner who I eventually had to leave for the sake of my mental health. When times were good, they were unbelievably good but when they were bad it was very damaging.

If you can’t bring yourself to leave him, and I think really you should, how about suggesting a break while you sort out your mental health? This should also prove to him and his family that you are prioritising yourself and that you didn’t do it for drama.

Talk to your GP again, you can’t carry on without help. Have you been taking the higher dose prescribed? Have you been referred for any appointments after your suicide attempt?

You need time for yourself to understand why you made an attempt on your life, what is making you feel that way and how to get better.

Mind have a helpline which is open until 6pm. Could you give them a call now and tell them how you’re feeling?

LIZS · 09/11/2018 16:25

Agree. You are too young to get dragged down by someone else's issues. Your bf priorities lie elsewhere and maybe his family are seeing that the relationship is mutually destructive. Use this an opportunity to start afresh and deal with your mh problems.

PlateOfBiscuits · 09/11/2018 16:32

Even if just for a set time, could you take time apart while you focus on your MH?

JiltedJohnsJulie · 09/11/2018 17:42

Have you got any friends or family you could spend time with this weekend without your DP?

BeautifulBlue · 09/11/2018 20:20

Do you have children @Mummy6661? I’m asking this because of your username & because neither of your posts mention children & seem souly focused on your partner. You do need to leave him, his clearly effecting your mental health & if there are children involved I hate the thought you would allow a man to take you away from your children - physically or emotionally.

JiltedJohnsJulie · 10/11/2018 09:00

How are you today @Mummy6661?

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