Clubs and 6 year old?

[elvislives2012]

I've got two DD6&4. The eldest is quite shy and lacks confidence so I've been trying to get her to do a few little clubs to help bring her out of herself. She's tried tae kwon do, piano, Irish dancing and rainbows.
She hates them and gives them a couple of goes before begging me to stop her. Various reasons are she doesn't want to be away from me, doesn't like it, people look at her etc. She does do swimming which she would have dropped but I really don't want her to do that until she is swimming confidently. All the other things she drops.
She's currently doing rainbows once a month and not keen.
Would you continue to encourage her or just drop it all and leave it? I don't want to be pushy but likewise don't want her to just stop things at the drop of a hat

From my experience, going to clubs she didn't enjoy is not going to improve get self confidence at all.

There are lots of ways you can help boost get self confidence without sending her to clubs.

Thanks for reply. Yes you're right I just want to give her opportunities.

Is there anything she can do with a school friend? She might feel a bit more confident if she has a friendly face.

Tae kwon do is. She comes bouncing out and says she loves it then when I ask if she wants to carry on she cries and says no

She doesn't get on with rainbows, but what is your local beavers group like?

My DCS don't like clubs after school so we don't do them. They go to a childminder 3-4 evenings a week after school so when I do pick them up they want to come home, play, do colouring, watch TV and chill. They do swimming and rugby at the weekend. Both are happy children who are doing well at school. Clubs aren't necessary although lots of kids enjoy them. Are there any lunchtime clubs at her school?

Ds is 6 and a bit like this. He loves his football when he's at it but getting out of the house to go is a painful. I'm not sure what the answer is. I've decided to persevere with going as he really does enjoy it when he's there, but I doubt myself every time he strops about it.

Sorry, not much help!

My daughter was ... well still is ... like this. We now do 1:1 swimming lessons which are more expensive but we were wasting money with the group. She hated it.

She does do some clubs - beavers and brownies but it took a while. We found that she would give up activities if we gave her the choice. Now we say she can try something but it's for a half term whether they actually ask for payment like that or not. She needs more time to get over the shyness which gets in the way of trying the activity.

One of the biggest issues was tiredness. Her age meant that her classes were later but she didn't actually have the stamina. We switched for a time to activities being at weekends and it helped. Could this be the case for your daughter?

Thank you. Really helpful replies. She's so painfully shy and I worry about her! My DH thinks we should encourage the tae kwon do as its local and has friends from her school. We live in a tiny village with a tiny school- there were 6 in her year- so no after school clubs as such.
I thought of beavers but she prefers the company of girls atm so I thought it would help her

Do you go to any clubs or groups OP?