How long was it before you "found your feet" with first and second child?

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There's a 3.5 year age gap between my children, and with my first I always felt like I was always struggling along til he was about 2.5. By struggling I just mean it was A lot of hard work and I'd totally lost my identity until then with not working and not ever really leaving him to go out and do something child free. Then I had a year of it being relatively easy going and I was back at work and I felt like I had some more freedom/sense of identity back. then I had my daughter and I feel like I'm once again treading the water but it's much worse because there's two of Them! Not complaining by the way I chose to have them but it is much harder at the start for me. Does anyone else feel the same? How long was it before you "found your feet" again so to speak?

I was very similar with 2.5 years to find my feet on my first. My second is now one and I'm really struggling - probably more so at the moment because I'm back at work only six weeks and finding that very very tough between juggling the demands of the job and two small people. Hoping that in another six months to a year it will all feel better.