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Leaving DD at 9 weeks

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CJ1990 · 02/11/2018 12:22

I’ve agreed to leave our 9 week old with my in-laws for an hour or so this weekend. At first I was excited for a little break - daughter is super alert and very full on which is lovely but tiering! And I would like some time just be and hubby.

But now I feel super guilty for some reason like she’ll miss me :( I no that’s silly. And I’ve left her with my parents last weekend and she was fine! She’ll take a bottle so that’s no problem.

Am I being unreasonable on myself / a bit silly??

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CJ1990 · 02/11/2018 12:26

Or is 9 weeks a bit young..

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bubbles092 · 02/11/2018 12:34

Don't be silly! It's one hour. My son went with my friend for the whole day when he was 12 weeks as me and my DH had to move things from our old house into our new one. Little one will be fine! Enjoy the break... and wouldn't even blame you if you asked for more time alone. Newborns are hard work x

itbemay · 02/11/2018 12:37

I went back to work full time when mine were 12 weeks old. You'll be fine

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CJ1990 · 02/11/2018 12:43

Thank you - I no I’m being silly. My friends are super into attachment parenting and seem amazed that I could possibly think of leaving her so young! So I don’t think that helps!

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marcopront · 02/11/2018 13:14

I went back to work when my daughter was 11 weeks. I was lucky how the Christmas holiday fell or it would have been when she was 8 weeks.

QueenofmyPrinces · 02/11/2018 13:25

I once left son with my in-laws for 1.5 hours just so me and DH can have a break. I think DS was about 3 months of at that point.

The IL’s live on the same street as us, only 20 doors down and I still cried as I left their house because it felt so wrong to not have my son with me.

I hated every minute of the 1.5 hour break and was completely on edge until they bought him back.

I didn’t leave him again then until he was just over 7 months old and I went out for 3 hours to get a massage. I still missed him but that time the break away was bloody lovely!!!!!

mindutopia · 03/11/2018 09:48

Enjoy. My mum had our first for an afternoon while we went to the pub for lunch at 6 weeks. It was fine. 2nd one won’t take a bottle so the most excitement I’ve had is quickly running to Tesco alone for like an hour.

mindutopia · 03/11/2018 09:52

Also just want to add we follow an AP approach and there is nothing in there about never leaving your baby to have lunch!

Attachment isn’t fostered by never being apart. It’s created through responsive and emotionally connected parenting. The whole point is that when you have children who are securely attached to their parents, you can transfer that attachment to trusted caregivers who can meet the emotional needs of your dc in your absence.

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