How to get baby to fall asleep by their selves

[CJ1990]

My daughters nearly 9 weeks and will only go to sleep if rocked / soothed. She also won’t nap in the day unless out in the pram / car seat..

In the next few weeks I’m hoping to try and start breaking this habit so I can just put her in the cot etc..

My question is when is an ok age to start this? And have scheduled nap times in the day? I’ve Also no idea how to break this rocking cycle!

Thank you :)

Do it when you and baby are ready. Mine sort of fell into a schedule at 3 months, I guess I had just been consistent without realising.
Always went to bed swaddled and I sang to her whilst she lay in her cot.
At 10 Mo's doesn't like to nap in her cot, but fresh air during the day really helps in so many ways.
Now, she will lay in her buggy with a bottle or in bed with me and fall asleep like that for a nap

9 weeks?! Your baby is far too young to self settle. Babies want to be in their mum’s arms, this is entirely natural behaviour. The world is a scary place aged 9 weeks. Just cuddle your baby, co-sleep if you need to and stop worrying about routines. And yes, 9 week old babies rarely want to nap in the cot.
I’ve had 3 babies and they’ve all self settled eventually (but at like 18 months).
Be kind to your baby, they have no idea of your need for structure and routines

MN seems to frown on babies who are able to self settle. Mine loved routine and the bedtimes just fell into place. They always self settled. We started routines from end of week one - regular daytime feeds and naps, fully dark room for all sleeps (proper black outs at windows) and they never needed cuddling or patting to sleep. They were so happy with being in their cot alone and didn’t cry. So it’s not necessarily too early at 9 weeks. From 9.5 weeks my second child was sleeping 7-7 happily without any wake ups or fuss. My first child took longer and did it at 15 weeks. They were breastfed. I used to bath them at exactly the same time every night, breast feed them then read them a story (I know they couldn’t understand it was just so they were put into their crib awake). And I always got them up to start the day at the same time. Snd by pursuing a strict routine it just happened. And my babies loved it!

Eldest self settled from day one, youngest I tried and tried while he screamed and screamed.

In the end I found the Babywhisperer technique of pick up put down worked. Within 2 nights he was settling himself to sleep with a few pick ups and totally settling by a week later. Same for night wakings and naps. He was 6 months when we started.