To be told by My 7 year old daughter that she doesnt want a daddy.

[paul20]

I have always seen my daughter on a regular basis since she was born, twice a week every week without fail.
We do things,go places and have lots of fun together.
This all came about as she told me who her main family was and I explained to her as I was her dad that I was also a main family member also.
I explained this in front of her mum,{ me and mum are not together.} Which she agreed I was also a main family member to our dd,.
Then dd dropped the bombshell saying she doesn't want a daddy.
Mother told dd this was very hurtful, and also told me she doesn't mean it.
Any advise on what I should do, im shocked that my dd said this as I worship the ground she walks on.

Is she the only one of her friends whose parents are separated? Could someone have said something to make her uncomfortable?

Kids say these things. They don’t mean it. I am sure she would be devastated if you disappeared from her life.

Try not to take it to heart. It was extremely hurtful but said without thinking and without the knowledge of how an adult would interpret and feel upset. She has probably said similar to a friend and the next day they are friends again.

Kids can say things to get a reaction and a lot of the times you shouldn’t take it personally. Consider how you are together and if she enjoys her time. Look at her actions rather than her words.

Take it with a pinch of salt, truly. I live with and am the primary caregiver for my son and he tells me often when stropping he wants a different Mummy. My daughter's first sentence was Mummy, me no like Daddy.
Unless she actually doesn't want to see you, it's par for the course.

Take the positive from it, that your ex partner backed you up and explained how important you are in her life. That attitude from her and you together will shape your daughters future perception. One off comments are hurtful but from children common and said without malice.

At 7, she's not going to be able to express very complicated ideas and emotions.

She may mean she doesn't want a daddy who is separate from her household. Does she sleep over at your house? Maybe she feels you don't have a home together.

It's a deeper thought than she is able to express, anyway.

Please don't tell her it's unkind to say that though- she needs help to express what she means, not shutting down. You could answer 'that makes me sad. Help me understand what you mean'.

Thank you all for your comments, they have truly helped.
Hearing them words from my daughter truly broke my heart, I was so upset and it takes a lot to normally upset me.
I will try to take it with a pinch of salt, but its still hurtful to hear and hopefully it was a one off.

I’m a SAHM to a 2.5 who has told me this week that she wants Daddy not Mummy. Kids say things they mean in the moment but don’t full comprehend.