Sons and Daughters what are the difference?

[MMT2008]

Hello! I have 3 sons and am pregnant with twin girls which I am thrilled about. However the longer I've known about it the more I get worried about parenting girls -ridiculous I know. Curious if anyone has opinions on differences etc.

All I know is that my sons

• LOVE fighting/wrestling each other constantly

-All love mess, rolling in mud all that stuff -Had a lot of train/plane/tractor/dinosaur obsessions -Star Wars halloween costumes are the only good ones (this year at least) -All eat the most extreme amount of food

2 girls and 1 boy here.

All three are totally different.
At a push the main differences are DS perhaps more cuddly than other two. Girls are more excited or brave to try new things - the girls were more adventurous (climbing high, jumping, zip wiring) at a younger age. Though it’s possible that we’ve babied DA a bit as he’s the youngest. Luckily DD2 is bossy and he gets to follow her so it’s hekped him take risks and be more adventurous.

I only have one of each, but.....

DS had the dinosaur, tractor etc obsessions, DD did not.
DD generally braver, DS more of a risk assessor
DS probably a bit more demonstrative/cuddly
DD a massive bookworm, DS loved books when he was little but wouldn't touch them now.
Both loved messy play, but DS definitely rougher with toys
DD loved colouring/drawling/sticking stickers when little, DS never did.
In most ways though I'd say there's no real difference.
Congratulations

I have a boy and a girl. My son is just like me in temperament and my daughter is just like my DH. So when people who see my son say "oh your son is such a typical BOY" I laugh, because I was into the same outdoorsy things as him a kid and had the same fiery nature. And when folks say how 'girly' my daughter is, then I remind them that my DH is quiet and good natured but it is certainly not because he is 'girly'! None of these qualities are specific to a particular sex. So unless you treat your girls differently to your boys in the way you dress them, talk to them and the toys you give them, then they will likely end up having at least some of the same interests and temperament as your other children. And if not, then this isn't because they are girls, but because they individuals with unique personalities.

The thing I'm finding hardest about parenting a girl is how to talk to her about the incessant dumbing down of girls in marketing, and the restrictive genderisation of toys marketed at girls. You might find it helpful to have a look at the websites 'let toys be toys' and 'let clothes be clothes'.

Ime the biggest difference is girls hold a grudge.
That's all I am saying.

Everything from your op plus Frozen and horses.

Thanks for responses! I know its a silly thing to worry about think its just because I'm used to being a 'boy mum'.

Also I have no intention on raising them any differently than my sons, as for dressing them I can't quite say the same!

I have one of each. You've pretty much described my 4 year old daughter. Except swap star wars for princesses.

Sons have penises, daughters have vaginas.

HTH!

What is the point of this thread? It’s going to end up full of gender stereotypes and generalisations, countered by trite statements that “all children are different” (no shit Sherlock).

Totally agree with AnotherEmma.
My two children are totally different. Not because one is a girl and one a boy but because they’re different people.
Changing nappies is a bit different. (Boys pee when nappies removed and it goes everywhere. Well mine did!) but other than that?

If you raise them properly then there shouldn’t be any meaningful difference. However, many parents get caught up in silly gender related prejudices.

I have g/b twins

My girl is loving and loves pink, unicorns and skye from paw patrol. She also loves cars

My boy is quieter but cheeky and loving too, gives lovely kisses and cuddles. He loves cars

Theyve watched the same tv, been given the same toys etc although i put my lg in dresses so guess thats just how they are

Sorry didn't mean to upset people. I meant long term or just general difference - I agree boys and girls should be raised the same and be able to take interest in whatever they like.

That being said I certainly know there was a lot of difference between my brothers me and my sister on a semi gender basis when we were kids.

For example me and my sister as teenagers would get into screaming arguments.

Also in general I do think female friendships can be very hard to navigate (compared to my DHs for example).

Mum of 6, 3 of each.

Generally, boys are more physical - especially fighting at the drop of a hat. Girls are more verbal. And will hold a grudge FOREVER. But that could just be my lot.
Both sexes enjoyed sports but aren't very sporty, they just liked getting out and doing things. Occasionally a couple would just want to read a book/play with toys/watch tv and when they were older play computer games, but that was both sexes.

This is what I don't get re thinking like a boy/girl. They all played with dolls, liked to be outside, wanted to see how stuff worked - well the taking apart bit, not so good on putting back together though. DSs1 and 2 were ok at reassembly. DD1 and DS 2 liked pink, DS 3 liked purple, DDs2 and 3 blue. DS1 liked red. This was growing up in the '80s, I'm a pretty traditional mum too. I didn't 'set out' to make the boys like dolls or the girls like cars either.

op its normal to wonder if things will be different. i have one boy and four girls. ds is quiet and was never cuddly so not very stereotypical. 2 of my dds are very high maintenance but are also very affectionate. One is very quiet and easy going like ds, the other can be very demanding and competitive but she is the eldest so i think that accounts for that. so all totally different and not really very stereotypical at all. Teen years haven't been too bad, they are all good kids thank goodness.