Where to go from here? Potty training

[xxxParisexxx]

Hi all bit of background. My little girl is 3 end of Jan. Currently on half term from playschool for one more week. Expecting baby number 2 start of Jan.
She has never been interested in sitting on the potty but has gone from petrified to sitting with clothes and then without a nappy.
Taking it slowly as she gets upset and anxious about new situations, quite a sensitive girl.
This evening I saw her look like she needed a poo. She thought ideal opportunity to sit on potty. Gave her something to watch on my phone and she did a poo on there! Was chuffed as she has never done anything on there no even a wee.
She's gone to bed after tons of praise about being a big girl etc etc.
Where do I go from here in terms of tomorrow? She wears pampers pull up nappies. Havnt a travel potty/trainer pull ups or anything in yet as she didn't seem ready in the slightest.
Would ideally have liked her potty trained before baby number 2 but I have no clue what to do next lol thanks all xx

How about a shopping trip to buy some ‘big girl’ pants? We used lots of cheap normal pants rather than training pants. Mine were so chuffed about choosing and buying their first pants (bulk pack from the super market).

Shall I take her out in her nappy? I have a pack of 5 knickers but so far she has refused to wear them. They are her fav peppa pig lol. What about the car seat getting an accident on?
Sorry I'm clueless lol x

Once you make a decision to go for it, I would go cold turkey on the nappies (except for bed and naps). You can buy disposable puppy pads for prams and car seats but I just line it with a carrier bag and towel. Make sure you have plenty of pants and loose, easy to pull up trousers like trackies or leggings and encourage her to sort herself out if she has an accident. I don't think you need a special travel potty - the stage where they might need to wee in a shop or the park etc is a pretty short timeframe so I just take the normal potty in a carrier bag.

God it's daunting isn't it haha, where would u dispose and how of a poo in a shop or park though lol as we are out and about quite a bit. Will stock up on pants tomoro and I also have a week before she goes back to playschool.
Does it matter she has never weed or shown interest in weeing on the potty?! Tonight I'm worried the poo was a fluke.
Can anyone recommend what to use to clean carpet of accidents too please. It's pretty much brand new!! Xx

Thinking back to the last child I trained, we would time going out just after he had done a poo, so you know you have a window of time before they need to go again, so didn't have to deal with a poo in the potty outdoors. Wees can be discreetly got rid of behind a tree in the park or soaked up with a cheap nappy if you absolutely have to use the potty in a shop.
I always plan to stay in for the first few days (apart from essential stuff like school runs), until they start to get the hang of it. After the first few days you can sort of predict how long they can go between wees and they can hang on for a very short while - so if you need to go to the supermarket, you can get them to go before you leave the house, then try again in the supermarket toilet before you start shopping. If they need to go whilst you're shopping you can just abandon the trolley and make a sprint for the loo! you shouldn't really need to be pulling out the potty in the middle of the aisle.
I just use a floor cloth and hot, soapy water to clean up accidents (there shouldn't be that many though) and book a carpet cleaner to give the carpets a good going over once they are trained.

I only have shopping to be picked up tomorrow click and collect so not out long at all. She won't sit on the big toilet yet does that matter? Still go for it? X

I'd put her in a pull up and go get your shopping first thing, go let her choose some new knickers and some sparkly stickers for rewards whilst you're out then start in earnest when you get back. Good luck!!!

Thank u, I'm determined lol but just a bit clueless lol

Best thing is no pants at all for a while - otherwise they cant tell the difference between that and a nappy due to muscle memory.

With my DS we did basically naked for 3 days at home. He was about the same age and trained very quickly. After the first day he barely ever had an accident.

There’s lots of different ways to do it, but I put him on the loo every hour to start and hugely praised if he did anything. He got a smartie for a wee. 2 for a poo. An accident was just oh well and he had to help clean up. We didn’t really go out. After the 3 days we used pull ups for trips out (we had been in nappies before so they were new) although I encouraged him as much as possible to use the toilet. As soon as we got home the pull up was off. He did great and we ditched the pull ups after a couple of weeks and he’s been pretty much accident free since. Eventually they get better at telling you when they need to go. At first you need to remind them a lot.

Don’t get too reliant on pull ups though. I’ve friends that have fallen into that trap. It’s definitely best for them to be without. They are just useful if you’re anxious about accidents.

My DS1 just told me one day (just 2), he didn't want nappies. I had just had DS2 so wasn't keen. I told him fine but he'd have to go in nappies if he had an accident. He never did. Not even once. Week after he said the same about nights. Same happened.

DS2 is 3.5. He wasn't interested in using the toilet. Rewards didn't work. He gave anything to DD or DS1 or just said outright he didn't care about stickers/ treats etc. Then one day I said he could watch an episode of Go Jetters if he went dry (screen time is usually once a week after swimming). That was it. No accidents. He still has a nappy at night for now.

I suppose my point is, they'll do it when they want. Listen to what they say find incentives they will really want. Both mine skipped the potty and went straight for the toilet. Both really different personalities.

We've never had an accident in the car and I think it's becasue the expectation is they will be dry / we trust them (nerve racking on the first few trips!) So they are. But by their choice.

I would say on both occasions them seeing a younger sibling in nappies spurred them on to be dry. I think if you rush it you'll be in for lots of accidents. We used pull ups for DS2 when he started nursery, I personally think that was a mistake for him.

Every child is different so do what your gut tells you. If I were you, I'd just ask her what she wants and follow her lead. I've seen my friends struggle with endless changes of clothes etc. Which I do think is down to the parent choosing when the child will be dry, rather than the child saying.

Thank goodness I only have to do it obe more time lol. Good luck :)

We had a travel potty that folds and we'd carry that in the car or backpack. You can get bags that line it with absorbent stuff in the bottom so you can bag it up and throw it away. That was really handy for going out -it's called a Potette, they're on Amazon.

I tried at home with knickers in the end but failed tremendously. She did no wees and held onto it from 8.30 when I took her nappy off till 1pm when I went into the kitchen to pick up my plate of lunch
She was eating hers on the sofa and I came into her sitting in a huge wee patch not bothered in the slightest. I said have you done a wee and she sed no. I sed u have you are wet, we wee and poo on the toilet. She sed no, nappy on
I don't think she is ready still sad but she is 3 in Jan x

Just give her a month or so and then try again. Keep encouraging it, but don’t push it. For example maybe get her sit on the toilet every night after her bath even if she does nothing. Big it up every time you go to the loo that she’ll be able to go too when she’s a big girl.

My DS also had a book about toilet training that he read a lot. And any friends that are toilet trained you could talk about them and watch them go if that’s not totally weird! We have a lot of toddler friends so the fact that x used the toilet was much discussed, and he also saw other kids at nursery using it. I think it all helps, but she has to be ready in the end