7 year old daughter and topic of sex

[Shockedmama]

So my daughter has always been the kind Just say what she is tvinkjng she doesn’t have a filter sometimes and feels comfortable telling anyone everything. I’m very big on not keeping secrets but I fear I have gone the other way with this one m. Anyway my daughter has heard of sex from friends I asked what she thought it was and she said ‘snogging’ so I said it’s snogging for adults and left it at that. However from that she said at a family dinner that she has sex with her father as she had kissed him, I explained that snogging is a kiss between a husband and wife (!) and she seemed ok with this. Well the other day she proceeded to tell my friend she had sex with her boyfriend . Despite me talking to her about sex being private and that she can ask me things but it can be considered rude to talk about in public she continues to this. I think it’s a show off thing trying to impress people as she is a bit Of an entertainer and says things for effect, but this is really embarrassing and could get people in trouble. For the record she of course has no boyfriend and no opportunity to do things. I have already stopped things like her going on tik tok but given the tgat sex is in lots of pop culture I also don’t want to make it taboo or shameful for her. Iv considered that she may need more questions answering but my worry is she tells everyone everything and I don’t want her then going back to school and telling all her friends which does happen!! Any suggestions on how to handle this gratefully received! I’m very proud of my outspoken and forth right little girl, however she is so young and I just want to make sure I get the balance right,

You need to actually explain that sex is how adults make babies, and what happens using correct but appropriate language. At home conversations should be open, and accurate in my opinion. That way they don't use the words out of context. DS's 9 and 7 have had a basic understanding for years, and whenever they ask a question I answer accurately, and then wait to see if they have a follow up question as they stop asking when they have the information they are ready to deal with. I don't want sex to be seen as shady or taboo, but natural and normal in an adult relationship.

Why not just tell her it's how humans reproduce and make babies?
Adults have a special cuddle, daddy gives mummy a seed which joins with an egg and that's how babies are made. Why tiptoe around it?

If she asked how her heart worked or how she breathed then I'm sure you would tell her. Approach the reproductive system in the same Wayne's just another part of her body and she'll hear lots worse in the playground it's much better t hear the truth from you.

I don't know who Wayne is...should have been it's

I also don’t want to make it taboo

You already have 

Thanks I know deep down I need to tell her, but I’m worried about giving her more information than she can cope with. Iv ordered a few books which we can read together. I feel like she has grown up way to quick but Iv noticed she has been really curious about people kissing etc, if it’s on Telly or something.
Some if the mums at school are uptight about it, one mum went into the school about another child as they were talking about it in the play ground. So part of my worry is I tell her, and then she relays this information will she then be ostravhised! I of course will give her the chat about this being something that is private that we talk about at home only but doesn’t always work out that way 😳

It's inevitable that she'll share. Better she shares accurate info rather than silly or potentially dangerous/problematic things she hears.

Give her some factual information!

Letting her think that sex is the same as snogging was bound to end in disaster, FFS.