Should I take 7 month old to party tomorrow evening?

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It’s my husband’s nephew’s 18th tomorrow evening and the family will be gutted if we don’t attend with the baby. Baby is 7 months and getting into a routine. Party doesn’t start till 8 so everyone is saying ‘come for an hour’ i just don’t see the point and baby will usually be asleep when party starts. What would you do?

Just DH would have gone in our house.

I'd go, but we have always taken our LO out for evening events/meals. Ay home she goes to sleep at 7,if we're going out she has an extra nap about 6 to get her through then bed at 10

I'd do what I wanted to do- you've already said you don't see the point!

depends on the kind of baby you have. Mine was/is very easily stimulated and wouldnt sleep at a party- and id have a crap night, some are fine and barely notice.
Could you go earlier whilst its setting up and then leave your husband there?

No I absolutely wouldn't bring a baby that age to a party especially if they are normally asleep at that time. They would probably fall asleep in their car seat en route anyway so I wouldn't see the point.

I wouldn’t go and would stay home with DC whilst DP went. An 18th party at 8 is not where a baby really needs to be. Let them say they’re gutted. It’s not them dealing with the results of a tired ‘out of routine’ baby.

I wouldn't take the baby either. No point. The disruption means it could take days to to get baby back into the normal routine and an 18 yr old won't really be interested in the baby. If the baby get a tired or over stimulated one you will end up sitting out for ages and missing the whole thing. And if I've gone to the trouble of getting myself and a child dressed and out the house and to somewhere on time I want to be able to stay more than an hour or spend it outside or upstairs pacing with a baby.

Under maybe 3-4 months I'd go because they sleep anywhere but a 7 month old who is just in routine is likely to get over tired and a party isn't worth trying console an over tired child all night and possibly the next day. I'd stay home and send my apologies.

I agree with PP, under 3 months I'd probably take them, but it's too late for a 7 month old getting into an established routine.

I wouldn't take baby either. If we both wanted to go, we'd get a babysitter, otherwise just the one whose relative it is would go.

It takes us so long to get them into a routine there's no way I'd then go and rock the boat. Sleep is too precious these days!

What Oogle said.

At that stage with both DC I wouldn’t have gone because was sleep deprived, I would have had a crap time, and DC would have been fractious at the actual do and afterwards.

Go if you want to, send DH if you don't. Neither of you going just looks like you're not interested.

Just go baby can sleep in the pram it's a special occasion not every night

If you want to go I would go, I wouldn't worry for one night.

DD (now 18m) has coped well with evenings out from being around 2 months old. She would either sleep or be awake and interested in the goings on. It was far easier taking her out at 7m than it is now that she's walking.

It has never disrupted her routine longer term than on the one evening in question. As long as these events are not a regular occurrence generally most children I know have been back in their normal routine the following night.

Awww, go on. I was a routine-following mum but honestly, one night every now and then doesn't ruin things.

And your lovely baby will be showered with love and attention by its nearest and dearest - it sounds like a lovely evening.

I absolutely wouldn't go from what you have said.Your baby is a human being, not a you for everyone else's entertainment so dont feel pressured. It pisses me off to no and when people are like this. They don't actually think off the child's welfare.
My sis asked me, DH and baby to go to Cornwall from Birmingham the other day with her and her partner. I said no as baby is only 4months old and doesn't do well on long car journeys. She suggested we stop at services. She either doesn't have a friggin clue or is incredibly selfish.

Bit late now, but I'd have booked a babysitter and gone and relaxed at the party.
If people want to see the baby, they need to visit, or invite you to theirs during the day.

I'd have done it, and have taken my child to similar. She just stays up a little later and then conks out in the sling, irrespective of what's going on, and has a bit of a lie in the next day. But I'd be more reluctant if I had a child that it would disrupt.

Ideally I would have got a babysitter, either a paid professional or a relative from the other side of the family. Failing that DH would have gone solo. No way would I have taken a 7MO, who would normally be in bed, to an 18th birthday party.

I wouldn't have taken DD. She was very stuck in her routine and it would have meant days and days of suffering afterwards. She wasn't a "sleep in the buggy/car" kind of baby. DS is 14 weeks and already starting to go the same way, so I wouldn't take him either.

*16 weeks, sorry DS (Although he's the one who's turned my brain to mush!)

No, wouldn’t go.