Give up on LB having a bedroom?

[dhupars]

My 2.4 year old has never spent the entire night in his bedroom, ever. We live in a 1.5 bedroom flat, and every single night he just migrates to the big bedroom, me and OH take it in turns to sleep in there while the other sleeps in the living room.
Not that fussed that it is happening as it isnt forever, but I am just after thoughts on whether we should just give up on trying to sell his bedroom to him and turn it back into a useable sleeping space for an adult so one of us doesnt have to keep sleeping in the living room and just put him to bed in the big bed in the first place? Planning on moving as soon as we can to a bigger house as well, if we were staying there longer I would see more of a benefit in perservering.

All thoughts very gratefully received!

could you put in an adult single and one of you take him back and sleep next to him in his room for a while? he might start to settle in his room better?

What do you mean by 1.5 bedrooms?

I would definitely continue to settle him to sleep in his own room in the hope that he does grow out of cosleeping. But... my 6yo is still doing this. Settles on his own every night but then sneaks in to us during the night. So I would also make yourselves comfortable with the current situation! Maybe get him an adult bed in his room but put toddler bumpers on it so he doesn't roll out? Or get a bigger bed in your room so the three of you are comfortable in it?

TallulahBetty
I think it means a big one and a little one.

I’ve never heard of half a bedroom... but I think settling him for the night in his own bed in his own room should work - eventually!

I would put a standard single in his bedroom and use that for his bed so that the other adult can sleep in it if nec. But I would also persevere with getting him in and putting him back in his own room each night or you are making a rod for your own back

Sleep on the floor in his room for a few nights. Just keep putting him back in his bed.

Honestly, this has to stop. I know one other couple that let their child do this - they are now divorced. You need to get a grip (I know it is hard).

By 1.5 bedrooms do you mean one double and one single? If so stick a standard single in the smaller bedroom with a bed guard, ideally he’ll sleep in it, but it will also do for an adult. Job done.

I would try a full sized bed in his room and one of you sleep with him there. I think if he gets used to his room as his sleeping space, you could eventually slowly retreat to your own room.....maybe !!!

(Another puzzled by the 1.5 bedrooms)

I would take him back, every time he comes in. Potentially, as suggested upthread, if need be, stick a roll mat and quilt in there and take turns to sleep on the floor in there for a couple of nights to break his habit.

We went from 1 bedroom to 4 bedrooms with 2 babies who both slept in our bed. They carried on sleeping in our bed so we just ended up with 3 unused bedrooms 😂
They are teenagers now and don’t still sleep with us, I can’t see the rush personally he’s only a baby.

Half a bedroom means a box room.

I'm.confused as to why when he climbs in to sleep one of you has to move. He's so little and as long as he starts every night in his own bedroom it will eventually stop.

DS is 4, and only the past 2 weeks has started to go to bed/sleep on his own after a bed time story, and stay in his bedroom all night on his own!

Thank the sleep god's! Haha 😂

But up till that point, he would be settled in his own room. One of us generally cuddling him or sitting on the floor of his room then retreat once he was fast asleep. But he would eventually wake up about 3am and snuggle in to us in our double bed. Never really bothered us, nobody left the bed he was and is still small.

Part of me is glad he's been able to progress at his own rate, we've never had tearful bedtimes and it's always been positive. We're pretty strict in all other areas but when it came to sleeping we just sorta went with the flow and did things gradually and at his pace. We are also lazy and love our sleep so returning him multiple times in the early hours of the morning wasn't an option for us, we chose to cuddle in one bed haha!

I'd keep his bedroom as a place to settle him initially but put a single bed in so anyone can sleep in the he'd of need be.

Keep his bedroom as his bedroom. If you remove his bedroom, then how do you expect him to stop sleeping in your room? He’ll Have nowhere else to go!

Keep putting him to bed in his own room every night. When he gets up and comes to your room, take him back to his own bed. Keep doing it.

Thanks so much everyone. Yes it means his room is a tiny box room. He is not, however, tiny - he is 91st centile weight and height and regularly looks older than kids wearing school uniform in the playground which is why all 3 of us can't fit in the bed, he takes up all the bloody space when it is just him and one of us!
The room does fit a standard single bed though, so maybe we will make that our next move.
Not gonna do anything about the cosleeping though I am afraid! We have come this far with it, he will grow out of it in his own time. OH snores so loudly that I would prefer not to share a bed with him anyway haha we are fine! :-)

Put a single in his room. When he wakes up, take him back to his bed and get into it with him. Then leave again once he's asleep.

If you're happy with it do it. But dont become on of those goalkeeping parents that are knackered all the time and then blame their DC. Also they tend not to grow out of it til teenage years. I currently have an 11 and 8 year old in my bed.😁

goalkeeping = cosleeping!