I get so stressed and angry with my 10 month old

[Felicityx01]

Hi all,

My 10 month old DS had a meltdown this morning, crying about anything and everything! Trying to get him dressed is a challenge and him screaming just set me off in anger, his dad then knocked on the door to pick him up, I immediately said 'he's been doing my head in all morning little s*it, I need a break' He said say goodbye I said 'No i don't really want to kiss him goodbye just get him out of my sight' and I slammed the door, I've had an hour or so to calm down and now I feel really bad in the way I behaved and refusing to kiss him goodbye etc, no doubt his dad will tell his family that I'm a vile mum or something, but I just get so stressed being a single mum and doing everything, but I feel really guilty now and wish I wasn't in such a bad mood, anyone else just loose there temper?

Totally normal. But why would your DP say that to his family?

By the way - walking away and calming down is the best thing to do.

Sorry I see he is your ex. Do you have mucj support OP?

moita, yeah he's my ex, he has him once sometimes twice a week but it is really difficult being a single mum! I'm glad that's it's normal and that I'm only human, I never hurt my child just wanted him out of my sight at the time, bit I do feel a little guilty

Don’t call your child names. It’s fine to be overwhelmed and stressed, that’s normal, but name calling is never ok. Make a conscious decision now never to do that again. Otherwise it becomes habit and before you know it your child has grown up knowing they’re a “little shit” or something else. You wouldn’t accept someone else calling him that.

Totally normal, Babies test every ounce of patience you have & every now and again its just too much. If you need to, put him in his cot where he's safe, walk away and just breathe. Get all the help you can, if you can afford childcare then do it, even for a few hours a week, it takes a village to raise a child - don't be afraid to use that help x

Everyone loses their cool at some point. I remember when my daughter was around that age and was really frustrated with me because she wanted to walk, as I was putting her in the buggy she was kicking her legs and got me right in the face, it bloody hurt, so I walked away and let her scream in the buggy in the hallway. My neighbour came and took her out for a walk and came back with a packet of hobnobs and a bottle of wine ❤️ I just needed a break. Totally understandable and totally normal. Have you got any mom friends close to you? It can be a complete saviour to have good pals close x

I remember, 17 years ago, DD1 was 10 months and completely driving me insane.
I followed the advice of leaving her in a safe place and walking away for a few minutes to get a grip.
I walked back into the room to find my baby gone. My Mum, who lived neXT door at the time (fun times ) had walked in and picked up DD cos she couldn't bear to hear her crying.
Needless to say I barged across the garden and into her house, screaming like a banshee, completely indignant saying I had it under control.
Told DH what had happened when he got home, he thought it hilarious. Needless to say I did not.
You're not the first or the last, you're doing a fantastic job

Felicity try not to feel too bad and dwell on it, I think most of us have our moments where we react in anger and say things we don't truly mean.

My DD is 8mo now and I've had more than a handful of moments where I have shouted and called her things I shouldn't have to my DP. I know I shouldn't have done it, she's a very clingy baby and I haven't had time away from her at all, it's bound to take its toll.

Treat yourself and relax while you can, your baby will still love you and be happy to see you (mine smiled when I called her a little shit the other day! )

Fingers crossed it gets easier (for the both of us!)

AND if your ex says anything to anyone, just remember that he has his child a few hours each week, you have them nearly every hour there is.

Hi Op,
I really feel for you as I'm not a single mum, but my OH had to go to Scotland quite suddenly due to a family member being seriously ill and left me with a 1 year old. He was away for nearly 3 weeks and I had just gone back to work, but in fairness I found being at work lovely and restful (even though a do a really demanding role for a global company) 😂
The evenings were difficult coming home with a tired and grumpy little one from nursery and trying to scramble together a meal. So hats off too you indeed as managing full time or thereabouts is bloody hard on your own, don't worry about having an off day, you're doing an amazing job 🧡