Dreading husband going back to work

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Tomorrow our baby boy is 2 weeks old and its the day my husband goes back to work and I'm dreading it. Does everyone feel like this when it comes to this time? He's been amazing helping with me after having and emergency c section and helping out with our baby. I wish I could have him around for longer but the bills won't pay for themselves! 😔

Yes, I remember dreading it too. But you soon get into the swing of things by yourself, although I do remember counting down that last hour until he would be home, couldn’t wait to not be on full alert for a little while. My DH then planned to take a weeks hol 3 weeks after he went back which was quite nice for both of us.

I'm already looking forward to the weekend for the time as a family again. Feel like I shouldn't be wishing the time away though. He hasn't got much holiday left for the year as he has to use some for xmas. He has a couple of days at the start of December and then Xmas week so I'm definitely looking forward to that time. I'm sure I'll be fine as have plenty of people to call on if needed

My husband had 2 weeks off when I had twins - couldn't wait til he went back to work! Much easier on your own and you'll manage fine

Make sure you sit and rest when you can with a hot cuppa and tv remote near by

I felt similarly after DC1 and for many weeks I was fine alone in the day but struggled in the evenings, he made sure to get home on time to assist with a screaming DC1 - colic, which passed thankfully!

Yep. I was terrified when he went back to work. I had an emergency Cs too and he'd helped so much I couldn't imagine doing it alone for 8/9 hours. But I did, and so will you And soon enough it'll feel normal

DP went back to work today and we’ve been fine. Took a quick trip to Waitrose to get formula and then both had a nap. We’re still establishing breastfeeding so it’s quite helpful to just sit on the sofa feeding on and off, then pumping if needed while she sleeps. DP always wanted to go out for a walk or lunch and it interrupted the feeding quite a bit.

Yep! I think most people do but you soon get into your own routine. Try not to worry and just go with the flow and take it easy

I hated it when dh first went back to work. Really hated it. But in hindsight I had depression and spent all day while he was at work crying, literally counting down the hours. But here we are 5 months later and things are definitely much much better.

I think I'd be feeling slightly better about it id of had a natural birth as I would have been doing more by now but as I've had to rest a lot, not drive and not allowed to lift anything heavier than the baby it's now all very scary that I'm going to have to manage on my own

My little boy is 3 weeks old and I was dreading my DP going back to work this time last week, it really wasn't that bad. I had a bad delivery and am only just up and about. We took it easy, didn't get up until we felt like it, spent the days cuddled up on the sofa and had visits from mum, dad and mil to help out and used this as a chance to get out locally with help. We saved visits from friends for the weekends when we were both here. My goal for this week is to go out for a walk alone with the baby. Just don't feel pressured to do anything and take it slowly.

I had a c section and my husband went back to work after 2 weeks. You recover quicker than you think :) just make sure he leaves you lots of snacks by the sofa and drinks if possible. I always find it really helpful when the husband brings me up a morning coffee before he leaves for work (if I’m asleep it’ll be in a thermoflask) as that’s the hardest bit! The morning get up! :) and things are easier after you’ve had that morning pick me up :)

Congrats on your baby. You will cope fine, try not to worry, shower before DH goes to work, ask him to make a sandwich for you incase you just don’t get the time. Make sure you have plenty of healthy choices in for grazing snacks. Good luck OP.

We adopted our DS and my DH had 7 weeks off of SPL and I was dreading it. I now wish he had gone back sooner! We very quickly settled into our lovely little routine and life was much easier.

DD is almost 4 weeks old now and DH went back to work 2 weeks ago. I cried the entire day before he went back, I was so scared of not coping and being lonely with a newborn baby (I'd had a c section too) but actually, the reality was so much better and I loved getting into my own routine and pottering about with DD.

Good luck, you'll be fine!

Mine didn’t take any time off at all. He went to work from the labour ward with our first and borrowed a clean shirt. He was off a few days with our youngest but I was desperate for him to go back and give me some space to just be.

So far the morning has gone well. Husband got up for work at 6.15 and baby boy didn't stir. Made up a bottle ready for when he did wake which was about 7. He went back to sleep so i got my head down for another hour and half and then got myself up and sorted while the baby was still peaceful. We are now on the sofa having a cuddle before the next feed. Just got to get through the rest of the day now

Hope it goes well OP and that yiu enjoy your maternity leave. I well remember this early stage! Agree with the PP who says prioritise having a shower!