At my wits end

[Asimplelife22]

As my title says I just don't know what to do....

My 3 year old is driving me crazy ...

She started preschool September and does 15 hours. She has always been feisty and confident and that's not a problem. A few times at preschool she has to sit with the egg timer if naughty but on a whole she is good. As soon as I get her home she is awful

She kicks, smacks , pinches me. She shouts angrily if I say no to something.

I've tried egg timer, putting her to bed I have tried reasoning and talking to her and nothing works . Today we went to a party she was fabulous as soon as we walked out she got from my grip and ran across a car park and refused to come near me. In the end someone else managed to sneak and grab her . And all the way home was a tantrum getting her in car seat resulted in my face being pinched so hard I cried .

This hasn't been like this before and preschool think I'm mad as she is pretty good and all the parents I know say how good she is.

At home I play, do creative things, go on trampoline, play football with her and still she has these awful moments.

I am so fed up I dread waking up in morning and omg next week half term and I want to get in my car and drive away I am dreading it so much

I praise al the good al the time I just don't understand what to do. I really need someone to suggest something that works

I love her so much but I'm lost so lost

Well done for reinforcing the good, now it is time to punish the bad.
You are the parent, you need to be stronger and determined. She doesn't feel your authority so you must enforce it.
Hitting - punching, biting, kicking, pinning - is an absolute NO. She does it, one of her toys or favourite disappears or gets shredded with scissors.
She runs away in the street or carpark, she will have to were reins to get out.
Remove screens, no tv or tablet for 1, 2 or more days.
You wouldn't let a friend treat you this way. And she wouldn't treat a classmate or a teacher that way. However, she knows she can with you. Put a stop to that.
She is 3 and perfectly able to understand.

It sounds as though she’s having difficulty coping at Pre-school and maybe in other social situations, like the party. How’s is she usually when you move from one activity to another?

The book “The Explosive Child should help you but please, please do not shred her toys. I can see no purpose in this whatsoever.

Jilted

Thank you I've just ordered that book on Amazon

Don't worry I won't be shredding anything . I have removed toys for a few days