Feel absolutely awful

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Me and DP just had a blazing row in front of our LO who is 7 months old.

He slammed a door and I was crying an raised my voice.

I’ve just read awful things about how damaging this is to babies. Feeling awful about the whole thing anyway and to read that it’s caused damage to her now I just don’t know what to do.

It was a one off, she is loved and always happy smiley laughing and chatting. It has put our relationship into question but aside from all that, what can I do to prevent further damage or rectify this with LO

Has anyone else done this?

She didn’t get upset but she was looking at me when I was crying and I kept trying to smile at her etc to distract her but I just couldn’t

My DH and I did this when DD was 2. Not ideal but she doesn't remember (not that I've asked!) Your DD will be fine. Are things ok in your relationship though? If not, it will impact on DD sooner or later.

If it’s a one off move on and forget about it. She’ll live!

She won’t remember this at all.

Sorry, just saw that you said it was a one off. It'll have no inpact on her I believe if not a regular occurrence.

I really wouldn’t worry about it I’m sure you have caused no damage. If it was an everyday thing then it would be different. It’s normal to argue. As long as it’s not abusive then I don’t see the problem.

Move on. The best thing to do is make up in front of her too. Falling out/arguing is part of being human - just show her how humans make up and fix things too

XH threw a knife which narrowly missed DD when she was 6 months. She has no memory of it at 11yo.

OP, I can't offer any reassurance but the same happened in our house the other day. DS is 11 months and has been very poorly recently. The stress doesn't usually get to us but he was up in the middle of the night and needed a bath as he'd been really sick.

DH and I got into an argument and I totally lost my shit and really cried. We both shouted and DS cried, which has made me feel like the worst person in the world.

Thank you all, yeah we need to sort things out relationship wise. We don’t fight and have never fought in front of her but things haven’t been right for a while. It would never impact her until this incident though as I usually just have her myself or with my friends and family so she’s always around good, positive people

Doodle I’m sorry you’ve been through it too it does make you feel horrible doesn’t it! I’m going to work extra hard for those giggles and give plenty of extra kisses I think

Philomena that’s no good, that must have been extremely worrying for you

That's exactly what I've been doing these past few days. I'm still not very happy with DH to be honest because I felt it was so unnecessary but it does take two and I'm not blameless either!

I guess, as long as it doesn't happen again, it's okay!

Doodle I feel exactly the same, I take some responsibility but it just got ridiculous. Pm me if you need to vent

I can empathise, I had the arse with DH the other weekend and atmosphere was very weird in the house. DD (5mos) kept looking at both of us with a very questioning look on her face bless her.

Do not let this make you feel bad or sad though, just try and have as normal a day as possible and sort things with DH in as calm a way as possible

Well, yes, thankfully he's in Mexico now.