2little boys, and at home

[ilonaM]

Hi There,
Would love to hear from you. Mum of two boys. 1=3years old (born August 2015)
and second one 13months.

Before having kids, I was always seeing only the pretty part of having kids. Now with two kids at home, and especially a small gap between them, make me see the world differently. But I love it. It is fantastic.
So busy with both of them, the second one has started to walk already at 12months, and the other one can play on his own. But I love going outside, but sometimes, I'm so tired, and I can even think to go out for a walk with them. It doesn't happen often, but it is here: I just think : It's a shame, it is so beautiful outside, but I'm lacking of energy and feel guilty about it, because when the Dad comes back the evening, he is also tired. And the day has passed and we haven't been out
Anyone also like me ?please share your experience ?
What I do in the evening when the Daddy is back, I eventually go with one of them outside. But taking both of them sometimes it is still to hard.

Hi op, you have every right to feel tired looking after two little ones. I only have one at present and find it exhausting as it is. I actually stayed in today with my dc because to be honest I couldn’t be bothered to go out. We did have a long day out yesterday though and I have a tired toddler today. I have found being a full time Mum has zapped my energy, i seem to get a burst of energy then it goes as fast as it came. Do you drive? Are you able to get out to the park or any nearby soft play/groups? I find it can be very rewarding but also a lonely life looking after young children.
Will you older child be starting nursery soon? Hopefully that will help you. Do you have any relatives/family nearby?

Oh also when dh is back I literally take a big breath of relief and think thank god he’s home so he can take dc for alittle bit and I can have a breather.

Hi Cocobana

Hé hé, I remember when I was having only one. How old is your little one ?
Yes we have plenty of parcs, Geneva in Switzerland is one of the greenest cities in Europa.
From where I live, in 5-10 minutes I have 2 big parcs.
You said: Being a full time Mum has zapped your energy, :-) I really understand you. And you are doing right by letting your DH take care of the little one when he comes back.
My Mum is arriving tonight, .... so looking forward. She lives 2 hours from here.

Hey wishing you a great evening tonight, and tomorrow will be also a great day outside for you. If you have stayed in today.

Yes Looking after young children, even if you go to soft play/groups, is sometimes a very lonely life:-) But all is good at the end.
The best for me is when I go outside with my friends once in a week.

Just let me know how old is your little one ?

It sounds beautiful where you live, I’ve always wanted to visit Switzerland. I live in England. I have a boy and he is 19 months old and quite a handful but amazing at the same time. Fresh air works wonders but just go easy on yourself and if you’re not up to going out stay in and have fun indoors as the next day you may feel up to going out. I find no two days are the same. Your Mum arriving sounds like a blessing, have a lovely evening and enjoy some rest

You are right Cocobana, Having a boy is a handful but amazing at the same time. Yes fresh air works wonders:-) That what I prefer to do. But I have to give myself also a rest. And the next day I may feel up to going out. Yes my Mum arrived. Mini one already sleeping and the other one will go soon.
My other half is British. I love England too:-)

Have a great evening.

A 3 year old and a 1 year old at the same time is exactly the WORST ages that I remember. Absolutely unrelenting, never a moment to myself as they were always all over me, never being able to slacken my vigilance as they would be climbing stuff or trying to throw themselves down the stairs or screaming at me over totally illogical things or refusing to eat/sleep/use the toilet. DH and I were basically like zombies plodding forward day by day and I used to sometimes put them to bed at ridiculously early hours (like...5pm) when it was dark in winter just to do the bedtime routine so we had something to do and go to bed early. I would count down the hours until my husband came home and then we wouldn't even really speak, just do evening chores and collapse into bed in anticipation of multiple wake ups all night from both kids.

Things that helped - getting out of the house daily no matter the weather to go to the park or an activity or the library. 3 year old in preschool a few hours a day so I got one on one time with the baby. Cast iron routines for meals, potty, naps, bedtime. Both husband and I fully pulling our weights around the house and with the kids. A cleaner once a week. A meal plan so I wasn't faffing about deciding what to eat every day.

My boys are 5 and nearly 7 now and they are a joy 99% of the time. DH and I get to spend evenings together, they can cycle with us, they enjoy days out and have conversations and most importantly they play together for hours and they both read independently (and enjoy it!).

It gets better I promise!!

You are a superstar Xiaoxiong !!Super thank you for your experience.
Cannot get enough of this sharing. Will make me feel better.
And of course I agree with you with all what you say about a 3 year old and a one year old. Yes walking zombies:-)
Cannot wait when they are a bit older, will be easier.
At the moment, I still have to wake up in the night for both of them sometimes. And the wee-wee training is also taking so much time sometimes during the day. Cannot wait to spend the evening with my other half.
Sounds perfect: both of them playing together, and reading independently.
At the moment, the first one is always pushing him, tickle him, etc. Mini baby cannot be on peace:-)

Super Thank you Xiaoxiong
Have a great evening